The alienation of sudden death tends to warp the mind of the recently departed. The desire for the life they lost is heartbreaking, maddening even.
Shadows are distorted by the interplay of light being reflected off of other objects. They can even be obscured by the shadow of another, thus we have the idea of being “overshadowed”.
The father wanting his son to follow certain traditions simply because they are that. That is an example, yes, but why do we adopt burdens?
To feel useful?
We are taught to adopt them, we internalize.
We want to be loved. Indeed. We have a fundamental need to be loved, but can we be loved for our burdens?
We want to always be the one to help others and ignore ourselves. At least that is the old fashioned notion. The perfect wife, mother, and housekeeper. That is the root of all burden. The reason burden, and bearing it arises, is because we have come to ignore our true natures, often to the detriment of our physical and mental health.
Ever meet a wealthy martyr? And naturally you will not, and give me a petition. I will read you a list of martyrs. Why is this?
All their energies, spirit, monies, go to others? Yes. Do these create change? Lasting or broad change? Have you ever heard the saying, “One person can be smart but a group is stupid.”? Why is it that one person can be smart, but groups tend to be stupid?
I know that saying, men come to mind and women too. Men tend to devolve into wolf packs, and that is if they are responding positively to each other.
You lose individual accountability. Groups need to follow the same idea or they aren’t a group, so pressure makes everyone conform.
In order to get along, you have to cater to the lowest common denominator.
Is it true that a group all has to have the same idea to be a group?
It is when you are in school. Even that is being discovered to be detrimental. Trying to teach to one large group in a single uniform way, but they are developing new strategies.
Your thoughts are welcome. Be well friends.