Absolutist thinking is a vicious falsehood, creates only confusion.
The reason our minds are in such danger these days is because we have mental structures, ideas and belief systems, that are using up our healthy emotional and spiritual energy, but they aren’t doing the job of that part of the mind they are connected to. They resemble honesty. They look like love. But they behave in ways that flood our minds with waste matter and don’t fulfill the purpose of those mental energies.
Human society has been busily necrotizing the structures of the mind, causing them to rot and break down, all the while trying to preserve those elements that some deem to have value, to have purpose. But you can’t kill part of the mind and leave other things untouched.
It can cause a lot of psychic pain, for some, because of the way in which human society and individuals necrotize the structures of the mind. Yes. You can do that just by cutting off energy flow. Energy flow is cut off when attention is cut off.
Now they find that drugs like Prozac cause birth defects. All the while praising its many other benefits.
So, let’s say you have taken on the mental virus of gender role. If you have incorporated gender role into your emotional center, your psychic heart if that makes more sense, you will selectively ignore any thoughts or impulses that don’t conform with whatever solidified model of gender role you have adopted. From there, you will cut off the options that would stem from any of those choices, like preserving ideas of self-respect say, or expressing the desire to be with your partner as an equal. You will have to deny that you understand any of the feelings or desires of those gender role models that are not the one you have included in your own emotional being. Well, can you see where this is going? Just from the idea “I’ve got to be a man”, I wind up having to ignore tender feelings for my spouse and offspring. Ignore similar feelings for pets and friends, turn my back on my guy friend when he has an emotional breakdown because, “Guys don’t do touchy feely.” What doesn’t get poisoned?
It makes bad fathers. It makes mass murderers, makes greedy politicians and corporate execs. They all have to prove they are men, real men. It’s control, and with no controller there is no single human being, or small group of humans, you can point your finger at.
Even the corporate women have to prove they are men. Indeed. Absurd isn’t it? Honestly, I have met corporate women who were better examples of the “man” I would want to be than any actual man.
Where this gets metaphysical rather than just social and medical is this. There is no real guilty party. It isn’t the patriarchy. There is no organized patriarchy. If there is some conspiracy of men, the great majority of men are not included. These malignancy’s can survive beyond any single individual like a leech, but grown to the size and complexity of a tree, they live beyond people. They live in the psychic energy dung heap we all muddle our way through. They can feed even from ideas partially related to them. If killed out they will just re-spawn from related material. They seed very efficiently.
Your thoughts are welcome. Be well friends.