Elemental magick applies on all levels and to everything. Sorry if that sounds grandiose, but I am not trying to puff it up. It really is that extensive.
On to the interpersonal level of elemental magick. People very often say “I just don’t know what to do with that person.” Well, honestly, it doesn’t take too much to figure out what to do with a person, because every psychological state and general social attitude corresponds to an elemental state also. Thus when someone gets panicky (air) a physical jarring (earth) can clear their head.
This explains why giving an angry person perception always goes bad. Adding air to the fire? They can convince themselves intellectually that their personal inferno is justified even if they feel bad about feeding it in the same breath. What they need is to actually experience the emotion they claim has provoked their anger, emotions being water. Then reflect on the trend of losing control of their temper, reflection also being water. Often times though, society teaches us we must never do this.
The most powerful way to deal with a temperamental person can be to cry, to break down, to let them win their fight. Which they didn’t really want anyway. You can see them go out when you offer them the emotion. Likewise, if someone seems on physical auto-pilot (earth), steady communication (air) will permit more clarity in their activity. They have to take a breather (air).
Rid them of obsessive behaviour? Yes. This use of air would be called constructive criticism. You don’t just tell them they are wrong and should change (fire). This just buries them in more problems (ash/earth). Instead you provide them with more information about what they are moving toward which is perception (air). This sound valid?
This is the basis for the intervention? And it works like science. You don’t have to worry about contrariness or anything like that. The person is in a state of abandon anyway, so they can be moved by the elements in a simple cause and effect relationship.
Your thoughts are welcome. Be well friends.