When a condition is at the stage of thought, you can change your mind. When it’s become a feeling, it impresses the environment, and when it’s become an action, you are then stuck with the consequences.
I value my shadow side, and have a natural inclination toward it. It is sort of my spirituality, but people often mistake me. A light during the day can go unnoticed in the broader light. This same light in darkness stands out very clearly. If you are a darkly inclined person it doesn’t mean you are evil. Evil is not a matter of territory. The biggest evils I can think of were undertaken by “moral” crusaders.
No enemy anywhere. That is the ultimate realization. There is no enemy anywhere. If I am dark, I am not your enemy because of it. Yin and yang, and forever playing devils advocate to each other. Build, and appreciate their ability to destroy. Destroy, but respect their creative/preserving drive. It all gets pretty stagnant without both, no life really.
Perhaps an example. Say you were to come to me with a personal problem in private, and sought my help with it. Seek my help and I will destroy something of yours to free you from whatever you find so troubling. Seek another’s help, and she will help you make something new so that you have a new way before you. But you can’t do that if you’re clinging to something old. So sometimes it’s best to have both, or one than the other in turns.
I was just talking about that very thing with someone else in terms of clutter. How hard it is to let go of things even when they seem useless, but when you let go of anything you make room for something else. Yes, and you can have what you can see yourself having. Clutter blocks vision.
The things people say about why they hold onto stuff “I paid so much money for it”, “It was a gift”, “I’ve had it for so long” even if they hate it, or it makes them sad, or feel guilty for holding onto it. If anything I would rid myself of has “value”, I give it to the first person who expresses an awareness of its value. If what I would rid myself of is hurtful, I destroy it and feel no guilt. If I wouldn’t value it then I won’t give it to anyone. This is why I do things in Second Life.
When you stop taking things so seriously then you start seeing them clearly. As I sometimes say, the answer to everything is feet. My test is give me questions. Keep your answers. I want questions.
Your thoughts are welcome. Be well friends.