Hurting can be healing and if the center of the person is whole, then all it is is healing.
There are certain people that leave me feeling drained consistently. Are they really draining me? What can I do about it? They may be, but are they draining you or taxing you?
Hmmm, they don’t annoy me or anything like that. One is a friend who I like, but I can only see her for short intervals. One of the marks of a psychic vampire is that they are often quite polite, and very likely not draining you on purpose. For those psychic vampires who have some peace, and don’t learn that they are hated, they sort of learn what a light mana person has, but it’s sort of backwards. A light worker gives, your friend takes even if just your pain, but by the sounds of it she isn’t focusing. Where one person is like a light people can see by, a psychic vampire friend learns by “tasting.”
She wants to be that light, but her life doesn’t reflect it. And her nature won’t allow it. She, as much as she might fight, is otherwise marked. A psychic vampire senses things differently. Does she have unusual bad luck? Does this friend seem to be almost always right when you are in a negative state, but not when you are motivated? Has she been unpleasant to someone you met who you thought was pleasant, and it proved out this person was false and her unpleasant behaviour justified? If not, it is maybe not a psychic vampire. You may be overly helpful.
A psychic vampire tends to understand negativity very well, but you can very easily tell the difference between psychic drain and being taxed. Taxing leaves your body sort of pulsating, head pounding, eyes dancing, is this what you feel with your friend, if to a subdued degree? Drain feels like a bath in cold water. Sort of soothing, but your energy slips away. Though that’s a psychic vampire being gentle.
There’s some contradiction about how she presents herself, and how she acts. I can’t exactly put my finger on it. It could be that contradiction distresses you
Your thoughts are welcome. Be well friends.