Spirituality for Living

Anger isn’t about what we think. Thinking people get angry. Ego based anger is insane, and part of why we fear anger is that it threatens the ego. Maybe the popular understanding of anger is mistaken, and maybe looking for others to either fix our anger or fix themselves so we won’t be angry at them, is even crazier still. Your feelings are real, your world is real, and it’s no ones fault.

“When angry, count to four. When very angry, swear.” Mark Twain (American Humorist, Writer and Lecturer. 1835-1910)

“When anger rises, think of the consequences” Confucius (China’s most famous teacher, philosopher, and political theorist, 551-479 BC)

“Anger will never disappear so long as thoughts of resentment are cherished in the mind. Anger will disappear just as soon as thoughts of resentment are forgotten.” Buddha (Hindu Prince Gautama Siddharta, the founder of Buddhism, 563-483 B.C.)

Angry Brain

Anger is something that people delude themselves about seriously, and it never goes away. At any time you could become angry, and as much as you meditate, as much as you pray, anger doesn’t go away does it? It just needs the trigger and there in lays the problem, the trigger. People villainize the emotion, blaming it for the problems it’s linked to or for the misconduct it supposedly leads you to. But for those who know me well I would ask you this, do I seem out of control? I am almost constantly angry. It could be attributed to… Seek More

Character and Conditioning

Is acting out of character depression? Depression precedes acting out of character. It’s the natural decay of the minds faculties from a mass of inhibitory tensions. It is living a life of “thou shalt not” without actually understanding why, or managing that “inner demon” so that it doesn’t smash it’s prison, your mind. It’s a feedback loop we’ve set up.  Conditioned not to “be angry”, we turn the anger inwards thus depression. “It’s all my fault.” I can give an example from my experience. I’m “autistic” which means my mind has created a sort of feedback loop all on it’s… Seek More

Allow Anger

Anger can take two forms, either a galvanizing certainty which is solid and even helpful, or a misdirecting blindly destructive and poorly understood berserking which is destructive. Is this also why you may speak in anger, but actually speak constructively in anger? Yes. I have gotten very angry before and when upset behaved very focused and rational. Anger can serve. You master it or it masters you, but you don’t master it by denying it. With reflection you can come to see that you can both allow the anger and still chose. But if you feel guilt, guilt feeds anger.… Seek More

Focus Anger

When you understand anger you begin to discover you don’t really have to control it. It arises like it does from the concept of control. You channel it. You own your anger by putting an end to objectifying your anger that is either making it a dirty object to bury in your mind, or projecting it onto another and thus objectifying them. I once read that all “evil” arises from objectifying life. In my experience this is true. How about you? Is jealousy a type of anger? No. It’s a perversion of anger brought about by a common style of… Seek More

Thinking Anger

Beware. Anger seems to be an inflammatory topic. We all deal with anger frequently if not daily, and we have a lot of ways of dealing with it. We are actually told more about anger than we are about love. Yet of what use is it? If the common wisdom and understanding of angry is true and sound, how come we still have drunken bar fights? If the common ideas of how to manage anger are true, why is assault such a common criminal charge so much so that it’s pedestrian? All of the rationalization about anger gets us where?… Seek More

Clear Anger

What it comes down to, and hypnosis proves this, is what you don’t know and what you ignore, can and does hurt you. What you are pushing away continues to operate on its own even without your understanding. Thus we have episodes when we “act out of character”. We “don’t know why I did that”. But on a rational basis you can’t see a way out. No amount of rationalization works as it’s what causes the problem in the first place. Men are often encouraged to ignore their feelings. It isn’t good advice and doesn’t absolve them of what they… Seek More

Warped Thinking

Redress isn’t revenge, and this brings us to the second brain that differentiates between the sources of things. It prevents us from trying to mate with a fence post or eat rocks. At least for most. Some people are remarkably deranged, but the early mammal brain told us that not only do I need to eat, but so does my mate. Not only do I need to mate, but I need to protect my young. It’s the first power we have to choose. The first reptile brain just responds to senses. It doesn’t choose. It’s the part that tells us,… Seek More

A Ride in Your Head

Any student of logic knows that logic is just a form of cognitive reality checking.  It is a function of the monkey mind taken to a cerebral level, and logic can be satisfied by any consistency. This is why even now psychology says that any belief that is commonly held by your culture cannot be classified as delusion. You acquire the belief because it’s a forced functionality even if it’s entirely wrong. Like the belief in God? It can be a belief in God, or a disbelief in God. You adopt it, because it’s what allows your place in the… Seek More

Notice That You Are

Interpersonal expectations, they seem almost a certain recipe for grief, no? I tend to live by trusting a dog to poo on the carpet. It isn’t about any personal assault. It is just how the dog is. Then it’s marvellous when they go outside. It brightens your whole day. If you accept the “bad”, it makes the good seem better. Notice I say accept, and not ignore, or encourage. Easier said than done? Actually no, I disagree. Acceptance is the easiest thing. It’s the chronic “problem solving” that creates the hardship. Why does a bear poo in the woods? Because… Seek More

Experience Of Anger

My sensory development is unusual, so the context for my experience is different. Some “normal” experience is muted for me and this makes them call me autistic. Do you have extra sensory perception? Extra-sensory perception is ill defined. For me, my orientation is more metacognitive. For I guess the normal person, sensory information is more attention getting. For me, internal processes are more attention getting. Example: Taste is weaker for me, but anger feels like physical injury, and I have no “subconscious” partition so I can’t ignore things. Does the problem of pain caused by anger bring the frustration of… Seek More