Spirituality for Living

Most people see conflict as drama and feel it there moral duty to avoid it, but you can’t avoid conflict. You are very likely involved in more conflicts than you currently perceive. It’s only your perceptions that bother you.
I’ve often had people comment on an interaction after the fact that they saw as a conflict, [...]

Conflict is not an easy thing to understand. If one can recognize that it is a matter of opinion, and that it isn’t necessary to agree. Most of the ways you get “wronged” are in fact not about you or your well being at all.
I love a good debate. I have learned it is ok to [...]

Let’s get a bit wild. Let’s say you have a haunting. How many of you follow this research? Ghost hunters anybody?
I’m not a hunter, but I believe in them and I like shows about haunting though I sometimes question the accuracy. The accuracy is specious, but I’m just checking if we have a perceptual model [...]

Perhaps more explanation of the third “win-win” option? That I can do.
You have your ego, and your publicly perceived self. For most of us these two things don’t match up. Whenever someone comes into conflict with you, they are dealing with your “public image” which is actually more connected to your natural/physical presence. So often [...]

One of the members of ‘One World, Many Paths’ seemed to use the group as a pulpit. He has very strong opinions. The funny thing is that he actually does know what he is talking about if you give it the test of time and let it play out. It’s just the way he comes across that [...]

I’ve noticed how some things I’m fine with, and others will drive me nuts, and I’ve wondered what’s the difference between them? The things you are fine with though you don’t know why, are consistent with your brains “reality checking” mechanism. All of our minds engage in this process. It’s a necessary behaviour for survival. [...]

The four states of matter themselves seem to exist in tension, seemingly destroying each other. But for water “destroying” fire (read “transform), there is no destruction. Destruction is not even possible.
Now let’s apply this to impersonal conflict. Instinctively, we don’t make any choice for the purpose of destruction. The subconscious mind doesn’t even have the [...]

People get very hung up on “who they are”, and protest the unfairness of others not realizing who they are. For some people getting angry is actually quite functional, for others it isn’t at all. But I ask you, are we entitled to dictate an ego to others and insist they accept it? (Ego = [...]