In My Humble Opinion

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In My Humble Opinion. A journal to vent about why people are like that and why all the stupid things they do are so obvious to me.

My Dysfunctions. A journal for chronicling my immeasurable fascinating dysfunctions.

It’s Gonna Be Okay. A journal to reassure myself when I’m overwhelmed by the creeping sense of impending disaster and the all-encompassing fears both specific and vague that colonize my mind, body, and soul.

“Almost any difficulty will move in the face of honesty. When I am honest I never feel stupid. And when I am honest I am automatically humble.” Hugh Prather

“We must always think about things, and we must think about things as they are, not as they are said to be.” George Bernard Shaw (Irish literary Critic, Playwright and Essayist, 1856-1950)

What is your definitive conclusion about humanity, today?

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Okay to Hope

”Hope” is the thing with feathers – That perches in the soul – And sings the tune without the words – And never stops—at all. Emily Dickinson

What I’m Hanging Hope On Today: Things change, they always do. I know at times this can seem threatening because it often appears well beyond our control. This lack of control is an illusion, illusions being nothing more than poorly chosen perspectives on any situation. The word situation itself can refer to both one’s attitude as well as the frame of reference any problem is being examined in.

This is where hope comes in, looking at any situation from a bird’s eye view perspective will both give a realistic sense of the scope of the problem as well as providing additional insight into the circumstances surrounding and supporting it. Although the problem itself may seem insurmountable, it’s only ever as strong as it’s weakest links.

If whatever you are facing seems too much to handle, it’s simply because you are trying to take on too much at once. The problem is no more supernatural than you are. It has weaknesses just like you do. That’s why there is always wisdom in hope. If you can’t do it the first way, there is always another one.

It’s gonna be okay. What do you say?

Travis Saunders
Dragon Intuitive

True Meaning IMHO

It’s too bad that stupidity isn’t painful. Anton Lavey

Why People Are Like That Today: People seem little willing to grant true meaning to anything they learn. It doesn’t seem to matter if it’s something they were taught or something they learned from personal experience. They even deny the basis for anything being meaningful in the first place, instead claiming nonsense like rationality and supposedly obvious so-called facts as the reason for what they chose to do.

None of us are immune to sensation but many of us are resistant to the process of making sense of our sensory impressions, and instead they choose to substitute a filter of immaterial preconceptions and disingenuously self-centered prejudices.

The reason the truths of our life experiences aren’t immediately obvious is that most events are neither good or bad by themselves. It’s just an individual’s state of mind that makes them seem to be.

I’m not trying to offer baseless platitudes here. If everything struck us like either a blow to the stomach or a pat on the back, I think there would be a lot less of this egotistical politicking and useless debate undertaken only for the sake of sustaining so called authority.

In My Humble Opinion. What’s yours?

Travis Saunders
Dragon Intuitive

Okay to Trust Yourself

Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do. Benjamin Spock

What I’m Hanging Hope On Today: Every day is full of experience. Even the most stubbornly ignorant individual can’t get through the day without having picked up at least a little new information. They don’t recognize this because they don’t consciously think about the new information. What’s also not commonly understood is that you can’t absorb new information without “thinking” about it.

With or without your conscious attention the information gets processed anyway. Stranger still, this processing is clearer and more accurately a reflection of your deeply held values and feelings than your deliberate thinking is. When you are deliberately thinking, your attention is always focused outward which gives everything a supposedly objective context, generally ignoring any of your personal strengths and assets.

When you relax and trust that your mind will do what you spent such a very long time training it to do, it never misses a beat and can even go so far as to call up supposedly long forgotten memories to further strengthen your skill and judgement.

So don’t worry, be happy, and you will express your potential fully.

It’s gonna be okay. What do you say?

Travis Saunders
Dragon Intuitive

Denial Dysfunction

It’s not denial. I’m just selective about the reality I accept. Bill Watterson

Why I Am Dysfunctional Today: Denial is misunderstood. We think of it as if people actively and voluntarily resist truths that are otherwise readily available to them for understanding. This isn’t how reality or the human mind works, or can even work. Reality imposes constraints… no constraints, no reality.

We, as young people, start out with mostly an undifferentiated perception of the world. Over time, we accrue experiences that, though we normally think of them as additive, actually divide up and pair down our perceptual sensitivity to the probable realities around us. The only reality anyone actually embraces, or even can embrace, is not so much a product of the world as it is, as much as it is a psychic footprint of the pruning process that is life experience, and how that has come to impose constraints on our daily thinking and behaviour.

To insist, that someone not deny the so called facts, is to commit an act of psycho-social violence against that individual. If that person must be persuaded to accept something more than they already do, the best practice is to start with some premise, already held by them, that would permit the reality of the new idea, and see where the conversation goes from there.

That‘s my dysfunctional self. What’s yours?

Travis Saunders
Dragon Intuitive

Okay to Live

A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort. Herm Albright

What I’m Hanging Hope On Today: Being realistic isn’t realistic. Living up to people’s expectations very often means keeping our head down.

Analytic thinking comes cheap. It’s the only way anyone can formulate an opinion. If an opinion is held with any feeling behind it, the original integrity of the emotion is often lost beneath half developed thoughts of who, why and when. All the exceptions to the rules and extenuating circumstances people labor under inevitably make nonsense of all their dedication to sense and sensibility.

Life is change and honestly living requires seeing and engaging with the sensational and emotional nature of encounters as they emerge, without losing awareness of the lives involved in favor of a point of view that is occurring only to you. If you hold past experience up on a pedestal, you will expend precious attention and emotional strength on trying to make certain that things conform to the shallow values you may have learned when you were young.

Let’s end the insanity. The ancient why of societal structure is long lost. We don’t need to lose our breath and any joy our lives still offer by chasing after it.

It’s gonna be okay. What do you say?

Travis Saunders
Dragon Intuitive

Okay Worry

God knows, there’s enough to worry about without worrying about worrying about things. Edward Gorey

What I’m Hanging Hope On Today: We are virtually ordered to control ourselves.

Feelings arise naturally and automatically and we are fortunate to not have conscious control of that. If we are consciously responsible for that, we would miss big parts of our living experience just like we frequently lose important details whenever we consciously analyze problems or situations. The social expectation that we remain clear headed and objective about anything in question is based on a blatant falsehood.

If you examine all human interaction and register every relevant detail, you will find that every individuals behavior proceeds more from their feelings than it does directly from their conscious thought. Thoughts and imaginings stem more from the person’s current state of being than they do from any deliberately acquired information. It’s as if society believes that artificially constructed “knowledge” and poorly directed pattern recognition is more useful than flesh and blood sensation, clear orientation, and innate procedural memory.

We owe our survival to being, at heart, sensitive, reflective and ultimately non-rational beings.

It’s gonna be okay. What do you say?

Travis Saunders
Dragon Intuitive

Love IMHO

The Bible tells us to love our neighbors, and also to love our enemies; probably because they are generally the same people. G. K. Chesterton

Why People Are Like That Today: What is love if it doesn’t distinguish between individuals? It seems to be a rare and precious experience. To generalize it into a rule of conduct would seem to subtract rather than add to its meaning. If love really is meant to be used as a problem solving strategy, then why aren’t conflicts between the individual and their neighbor easily resolved?

To date our views of our passions and convictions often cheapens the experience of being who it is that we genuinely are. We do no one any favors by pretending to hold feelings and beliefs that don’t emerge from us naturally. We betray any trust, that might form, the moment we apply an arbitrary rule to that interpersonal interaction.

So instead let us respect each other enough to behave as the people we really are and to react in the way we really feel. Let us surrender the program that is these rules of order and the cold, heartless utopia they are meant to lead to, and instead embrace the empathy that arises from expressing our authentic living, feeling, selves.

In My Humble Opinion. What’s yours?

Travis Saunders
Dragon Intuitive

Enjoy Dysfunction

I don’t know why we are here, but I’m pretty sure that it is not in order to enjoy ourselves. Ludwig Wittgenstein

Why I Am Dysfunctional Today: Enjoyment is certainly a wonderful thing, but life presents such a variety of things for a reason. By things, I mean experiences.

What value would life have if all we could pursue was our entertainments? Stories of all types are only entertaining, because in one way or another, the protagonist is NOT enjoying themselves. Stories where no character is challenged are meaningless, boring even. Consider learning. If all the information we are ever presented with is well explored, and so fully understood that everybody and their dog takes it for granted, then how much can personally learning it mean?

The bones, on which the pleasures of the flesh hang, are composed of stress and strengthened by struggle. The only way we could eliminate war (and the insane degree of suffering it brings) would involve seeing not to their needs and pleasures as much as it would require finding life affirmative channels for their drives. We don’t so much need satisfaction as we need outlets for our passions, venues for a more creative chaos.

That‘s my dysfunctional self. What’s yours??

Travis Saunders
Dragon Intuitive

Okay to Engage

If we had no winter, the spring would not be so pleasant. Anne Bradstreet

What I’m Hanging Hope On Today: The vitality of life is only experienced in moments that remind us of the vital components of being alive. To really live we must remain continually engaged, not with the most abstract concerns we conjure up mentally, but instead with what is truly sensational.

While we are satiated with none of our primary processes disturbed, it seems we lose awareness of the very basis from which we determine the worth of anything in the first place. If satiation persists over large spans of time, it can lead to our becoming desensitized to the continuously emerging windows of opportunity our genuine well-being depends on. The passing stresses of a deeply experienced natural existence have much to prefer over the spreading malaise that stems from life being analyzed more frequently than it’s appreciated for the rich immersion and affirmation of being it has to offer us.

They say the unexamined life is not worth living. It’s important to recognize the difference between examination and analysis. The first unveils the world around you. The latter remains fixated on problems, even those that are beyond you.

It’s gonna be okay. What do you say?

Travis Saunders
Dragon Intuitive

That’s Okay

I’m not okay, you’re not okay, and that’s okay. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

What I’m Hanging Hope On Today:It’s true. I’m not okay. My attention wanders seemingly at random a large percentage of the time. And I have at best a very shallow grasp of how the people around me may think, or feel, or even perceive any situation we may both be involved in, let alone where they might be coming from that makes them ascribe meaning to things the way they do.

On the other hand, every time I interact with a new person, it seems I see, yet again, a person who describes a world they have no real agency in, or else a world that they are neither open minded enough to understand nor open handed enough with their time and energy in order to create. All I have to base this opinion on is my strange relationship with language, and my familiarity and experience with what people do tell me is actually intentional behavior on their part.

Perhaps we are, all of us, equally lost in our own heads and what are ultimately aimless day to day activities. Maybe, like waking up from a strange dream, we’ll one day get out of our individual sleeping spaces, really finally encounter each other, and work together to figure out what it all really meant. We’ll see…

It’s gonna be okay. What do you say?

Travis Saunders
Dragon Intuitive