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Sensitivity to Others
We are going to talk about rejection. There is a lot of popular thought that would play rejection off as having no real meaning or consequence, but both personal experience and recent scientific research suggests otherwise. To get to the point, our body-mind, such as it is, has evolved to include in its sense of…
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Desire to Reject
Let’s look at the individual. We don’t generally want to subsume ourselves in the social system, just like heart muscle cells don’t normally volunteer for digestion. It’s a constant struggle between socialization and individuality. That is the problem, struggle. It can even lead to the equivalent of the social cancer tumor, something forcing itself into a…
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Psychological Immune Response
Feelings of empathy and antipathy kind of rollercoaster for me. I can’t figure out if it is me being hormonal, or if I’m just frustrated and can’t find a way to change things, like being treated more like a child than a spouse. It’s not just hormonal. There is no such thing as just hormonal. All…
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Social Heart
We don’t have just one social body, we have a set. In a sense, they join together like organs to form a body as complex as our own. Though most of our social bodies are like clone bodies with little or no brain. If they have little or no brain, then it’s purely an instinctive…
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Hearts Need Blood
I read that women tend to try to establish a connection with everyone, because, in the old days, they needed community if something happened to their mate. That women tend and mend rather than fight or flight. Rookeries of birds are established by the females ultimately. The heart of society is present in the female of…
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Find the Social Center
We should not reject any part of our experience? Not thinking in terms of rejection more than abstaining from rejection itself. When something upsets your stomach you puke, but you don’t stop eating all together. You don’t develop huge elaborate reasons why it is never ok to puke. How it is a mortal sin to…
Category: Rejection
Without any intention on your own, you will try to identify anyone you meet, and identify yourself in the context of relating to them. We experience the desire to reject when we experience non-recognition. To the degree that someone fails to impress our instinctive mind as “healthy” is the degree to which we will attempt to disconnect from them.
We react as if we are physically a part of any group we feel a part of, and we treat social rejection of any kind not just as an intellectual complication, but as a threat to our physical well-being. Handling rejection is simply managing the social body. Respect your part in it. Just as in nature, most things are not your enemy. In the social ecosystem, most people are not your enemy.
“You have people come into your life shockingly and surprisingly. You have losses that you never thought you’d experience. You have rejection and you have learn how to deal with that and how to get up the next day and go on with it.” Taylor Swift
“Human beings, like plants, grow in the soil of acceptance, not in the atmosphere of rejection” John Powell