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Romance Adventure
Romance isn’t a nebulous sensation you feel sometimes. Romance is a status of a relationship, and actually any relationship can be at a point of “romance.” I was even looking at a picture that had the main character from House and his best male friend on it. It said “Bromance…1 day they’ll admit it.” What is…
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Genuine Romance
I myself find people fascinating. In a sense that makes me a romantic, as I become very invested in the experience of human lives and the trials of their relationships and existence. One of the things my wife notices about me, and even sometimes seems to make her feel a bit uncomfy, is how interesting…
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Spiritual Romance
What is it about the quality of something like a beautiful sky that moves us to feel romance? Psychologically, it’s been called “biophilia”. We instinctively have positive responses to witnessing things that are life supportive. I feel romance for things that are bigger than the earth, for the power of the moving stars. Romance can…
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Strong Engagement
Romance can apply to any relationship, even a temporary one such as a discussion. You have a romance when there is strong engagement. I was immersed in the romance of the Olympics. Sports is engagement hence romance? All sport is romance of a very visceral/bodily stripe. I’ve always wondered if sports was bad for the…
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In Love
The subject is romance, and is romance all that it’s cracked up to be in your experiences, friends? Sometimes yes, sometimes no. No, and I’ve never considered myself romantic. Yes. It can be wonderful. An inconsistency suggests there is something wrong with our understanding of romance, as would the world wide divorce track record. I’ve…
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Look Inside
Why does personal presence become lost to the identity in a relationship? Wouldn’t a good relationship help you to know more fully who you are? It can if it involves a person who already has some idea of who they are, or some sense of how they could find that. Is this very common? So…
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Romantic Maturity
One reaches romantic maturity when they have accepted their “opposite” side, and instead of looking for their opposite, they look for the truly “other.” Someone who’s total self is genuinely other than they are. Who can actually contribute to their life experience, and who will actually value their contributions. In the romantically immature stage, we…
Category: Romance
Romance is the emotional overtones. It’s the willingness to have the emotional component of the experience of your relationships. Romance isn’t a relationship role. It isn’t relationship behaviour. It’s something that goes beyond any one thing you think, or do, or even feel. Romance comes from the heart, not the head. You can’t learn it, but you can discover it. Romance is a quality of engagement, and as twisted as people make it, no wonder it isn’t well respected.
In the romantically immature stage we “fall in love with” the one we can identify with. Which is fine when our self awareness is shallow, but it can never last. We eventually need the truly “other.” That person we don’t really understand at all, but who we can open our heart to.
“Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable.” Bruce Lee (American Actor and martial arts expert. Born in San Francisco, California, USA 1940-1973)
“To love one’s self is the beginning of a life-long romance” Oscar Wilde (Irish Poet, Novelist, Dramatist and Critic, 1854-1900)