The term stupid originally meant to be mute or incapable of speech.
Deaf, dumb, and blind. Dumb = mute. Yes. So the dumb thing to say is the thing you censored. You won’t run off at the mouth if you stop censoring. Your voice doesn’t speak on it’s own. You can and will get tired of your own speech, either because no thoughts come or because you don’t feel like speaking. I would even go so far as to say you don’t really appreciate quiet until you have talked yourself silly.
And those that don’t say curse words tend to talk a lot anyway. The urge to curse stems from a throat chakra block. I do sometimes curse. My aspergers makes it difficult sometimes for me to convert my thoughts into speech that makes sense.
When you don’t know why you feel bad for example, using word association as a technique is partly to open up this channel? Exactly. Most psychotherapeutic techniques are actually dealing with the throat chakra.
Or to just start saying words of any kind? It’s saying words of any kind, because you can’t and won’t avoid speaking your thoughts or feelings. The brain is really not capable of avoiding self expression. It can just choke hard core or garble the message badly.
That’s interesting. I often find my partner doesn’t know why she is upset, but I’ve never had that issue. Perhaps that’s why she had the problem, too much self censorship. Very likely. What I find helps with people like that is to say something at random when they aren’t expecting it. Short phrases or even just a couple of words. Their thought loop will be broken by the unexpected and incomprehensible expression from you. Then you can get them to talk a bit more until they stiffen up again. This is how Zen koans work. They open your throat so you can see into your head. See clearly. Koans are riddles. Unanswerable questions designed so you see the errors in your internal dialogue. They teach you that you aren’t really aware while you are too busy thinking. My advice for guys, talk your ladies ear off, at least from time to time. It will do her good even if you just make her ask you to be quiet.
I think women in general have more problems with self censorship then men. All the teaching of little girls to be good and quiet. There are other reasons for that as well. Women have a different structure to their language center. The throat chakra gets blocked more because it’s more complex in women, more places the block can occur. Guys have an easier time grunting or blurting out their thoughts. The throat is less of a maze. Neither version of the throat chakra is superior to the other, but it can be helpful to both partners when they find the common terms there. If he makes a solid, strong statement of affection, that has more meaning than if he is being wordy. Men who are wordy are either exceedingly intellectual, and by wordy I mean really verbose, or the wordy men have learned a stupid pet trick because women find it charming.
Yes, and we can get suspicious that they’re trying to cover guilt if they’re too wordy. Another stupid pet trick, but that one is usually learned by their having been coerced rather than making an effort to coerce.
My advice tonight is simple. Talk to your plants. Talk to your pets. Talk to your neighbour. Talk to your boss. But your words are like your body. Let them be present but don’t lean on people. Just because you feel it’s important to communicate or to hold your tongue doesn’t mean you should either flee mentally or molest the other person mentally. Hell, realize you talk to yourself, and if you are worried about saying the right thing to anyone, make that be yourself. If you are speaking meaningfully to yourself, you won’t trip over your own tongue with other people.
I heard a Buddhist teacher comment once on how if someone next to you was speaking the way you speak to yourself, you wouldn’t be around them long. And that’s the essence of a healthy throat chakra. Making what you say to yourself and what you say to others balance, not be one sided.
Your thoughts are welcome. Be well friends.