Spirituality for Living

What people are supposed to do is often what keeps the wheels of their life turning, like paying the bills, going to work. Wouldn’t they do it better if they worried about it less? Would it fall apart if we stopped? I think we fear that too much. Fear. There is a fine line between [...]

People project onto us and we assume roles. Young people tend to worry a lot about things they shouldn’t. Thus who has had a smooth third decade? Seems to me stories of that are rare to non existent. In their twenties, who doesn’t have some comedy of errors to relate at least, if not a [...]

Anxiety is a very real force, and it destroys things in our lives. You cannot solve a problem in the same state of mind that you become aware of it in. It’s that state of mind that gave rise to it. Has anyone had anxiousness ever help them deal with anything? Did it help, or [...]

What would happen if you “imagined” you were happy? If you didn’t try to make yourself happy with your thinking? You just imagined you were happy? Do happy people say “I can’t deal with this?” Change what you imagine and can you keep behaving as you did? If you imagine you can quit smoking, really [...]

A hedgehog is very centered. So is an armadillos, they do what they do. Maybe muttering to themselves, but not really committed to the muttering. If something comes up they go inside. They don’t run and hide. They don’t get skittish. They just go inside and not do anything for a while. Then when things [...]

We were all at one point happy. Literally all of us have been happy at least at one point in our lives. The reason being is that happiness is a natural state of being. It isn’t an emotion. It’s not a mood that comes and goes. Moodiness comes to replace happiness when we are taught [...]

Happiness is so simple it’s confusing, but generally it confuses children very little. We were all at one time happy. It’s sort of a natural state, and we experience it when we aren’t worried about all the “adult” things which we are taught as children. I have met some very adult children, and I find it [...]

If a person is a worrier, though it’s seen as neurotic, it’s also sort of respected. Supposedly it’s the way to be deeply concerned about people and things. This isn’t in any way true, yet people treat it like a badge of honour. It is supposedly a thinker who worries.
How many mothers are told to [...]

Aren’t people basically just selfish, and talking about all this stuff a bit of a waste of time? Hmm, my son has a strange habit. When I take him out to eat he will order something he wants, then he will want to feed me parts of it. I sort of don’t want whatever he’s offering, [...]

Something said to me the other day that they ‘reason’ their way out of worry. Do you think that can work? Reasoning your way out of worry? No. Worry patterns are habits of thought, and a logical process can seem to justify a worried stance. Worry is really only avoided by a recognition of your [...]

We can adapt and we can prevent ourselves from acting on our own natures, thus making us fail to adapt. When you are doing things you’re not sure of, don’t just do something, sit there. If you are worrying, don’t just sit there do something. Don’t worry about if it’s wrong. You have an innate [...]

Why does stress affect us so physically? You feel tense and out of breath. What is triggering that? There isn’t mind and body, there is only mind. The cardiac nerve plexus is a primal brain, as is the enteric nerve plexus, and they still function as brains even if we don’t want them to.
Is it [...]

Worry is a very common mental habit, but it doesn’t add one bit to our effectiveness in dealing with things. We are encouraged to worry by social reinforcement. It’s supposedly how we show interest and investment in things, that we really care and are concerned, but generally it warps our presence in any situation.
Can you [...]

What if we seek comfort from food or substance as a way of dealing with worry even though we know we shouldn’t? That is a mixed worry response. Your instincts are still in a sense good, but we sit and brood. If you are busy in self expression or engagement with life, make that your [...]

In truth, there is no such thing as ‘no way out’. In Taoism they compare any situation to a storm. The storm is far more powerful than any human being. If it can’t persist then how can any block be permanent? Seas weren’t permanent, we call them deserts now. But if we accept a block [...]

Are you the real authority on you? Is anyone here the real authority on themselves, or is that discouraged? Are you busy “playing house” or rather “playing life”? Are you happy? Most parents say they want their children to grow up happy and busily deny happiness, because it isn’t responsible. I acknowledge being response able. [...]

The indomitable human spirit is true of us. Even Jesus says at one point in the Bible “Have I not said, Ye are Gods?”, but people weren’t listening. People were too busy making themselves into devils, too busy feeling guilt, and punishing the guilty. Guilt is not virtuous, and never can be. Guilt is not justice. [...]

How do we use the power of the trickster? The power of the trickster is to some degree behind all occult practices. To do a great work you must be prepared to put aside your belief in “the truth”. To create anything truly new, you have to reject other ideas. Invention comes from seeing a [...]

Let’s take a routine activity. One we often don’t worry about. Someone want to offer one?
Cleaning house? Ok, yes. For some people house cleaning is very simple, and not seemingly stressful.  Some find it stress relieving. It is, but for one reason, and we can tap this reason in every stressful situation. When you are cleaning [...]

I’m not praising group think, but even if you aren’t into group think, you are still a part of that.  You are a very important part, and the individualist is giving us something huge. So see your connections, they are your stressors and they are also your strength. Don’t “fix it”. What makes you think [...]