What are you putting your attention on? That’s your intent.
Now for how third point thinking affects interpersonal activity…
You normally perceive other people as a web of behaviours, the chains of cause and effect they produce, even perhaps recognizing cycles, but still in a pretty linear way like an emotional stick figure. You have feelings about their behaviours of course. If they behave in one way, you think they like you. If they behave in the opposite way, you think they hate you. It all seems pretty real.
To the point we start to predict their reactions to things. There is a “type” of person. This feel maybe just a bit superficial?
Yes, which is more obvious when someone else does it to you. This changes in the third point consciousness. You realize the dynamics playing out in the person you are interacting with.
You feel the type of person and you decide whether or not to engage them in conversation. I find that is the case a lot in Second Life. Indeed. You feel their presence through your own internal sensitivity. It’s like a sense of touch, but provides much more information.
Like when you find out a pattern of behaviour is due to a past trauma? Yes, like a blind person touching someone’s face to discover what they look like. The contact with the other person shows you the true contours of their consciousness. In today’s world, what you will discover with this sense, as you develop it, is how severely people neglect themselves, and you will be faced with the choice of what to do with that.
It’s like stepping to a third point and seeing ourselves. Indeed, but as you discover the contours to other peoples consciousness, you also discover the full dimension of the footprint of their behaviour on other people and the world as a whole. You can’t judge people because you don’t judge that a balloon is coloured blue. It just either is or is not coloured blue. Seeing these marks on the people around you, and left by people on the world around you, you can get a bit overwhelmed with a sense of meaning, and a feeling like you should do something about it all.
But trying to tell a blind person the balloon is blue, he will get angry at you for judging the balloon. That is perhaps possible. There are those who do. There are pains the blind know that we can’t really fully imagine. When the world seems broken, like it’s missing pieces, it’s hard not to fear that maybe you personally are broken. The cycle of shame and fear that goes with that can last a lifetime.
It’s true. When I see “why” something is, it’s hard not to want to fix it, but it’s not broken. You can come to pick your moments. You don’t have to respond to all of the things, or even a lot of the things. Affect one thing and it creates ripples, even across dimensions of consciousness. The ripples just don’t make sense for someone seeing it the other way. Generally, they just feel it. They say things like, “I know it, but I don’t know why.” It can be lonely working that way, but still is a life of a sort.
People need to be ready. Timing is tricky. It’s like trying to judge the time of day on earth while you are in orbit. You can, but it isn’t as common sense as it otherwise would be.
Your thoughts are welcome. Be well friends.