The question in life is not “What is my purpose?” That question just makes us look really silly. The biggest question in life is “Are we having fun yet?
Sun Tzu wrote The Art of War. What is bigger and more scary than war? Anything?
War is about as worse as it gets. Suppression is bad too. Oh, suppression is bad. Suppression is war on self, and people love their wars on self. They will fight them, because they are told they should. But what Sun Tzu said is that the way of war was necessary to understand, but not auspicious. He said that the true warrior/guardian wins wars before ever there is any fighting, because he knows the way of war is there and no one is killed. Sun Tzu says fighting is a failure, so the action then is just damage control. What do we actually have to fight in our lives?
We aren’t in a utopia, but like the telephone and the internet, did anything come from not thinking of something that didn’t yet exist? Sun Tzu’s work is still here and the sources are still here, and we may even have to reinvent some things. We are mocking those who are, but their “fantasy” is affecting us anyway. I remember in my own childhood the green movement had no formal name, and nobody was really worried about it. Now it’s huge and very important.
Sun Tzu was lost when we lost mindfulness and immediacy. When we lost little things, and when ambition somehow became a measure of moral virtue. Ambition became moral virtue when friends? Taoism doesn’t understand ambition as moral virtue. In their view ambition is not virtue. What you want to do is not what matters. What you can do now on the other hand… they are all about that. How many people we know are all about what they want to do? How are they going to get there? I know a lot of people like that, and because of it they are stressed. It’s a very common attitude. They‘re so stuck on what they want to do, they forget simple things like to hug their partner, or their children, and eventually things get worse all because they can’t do what they want to do, because they are stressed.
These people rarely have time for partners or children, and they really don’t have time for their lives at all, because they are forever stuck on what they want to do. Right now my friends you are here, is this what you want to do, or what you are doing? Does there have to be a difference between what you want to do and what you do? Why not want to do what you can do? I know I want to.
I have learned to remind myself that what I am doing at the moment is important, and not to focus outside on what I want to do or think I should be doing. This alleviates some stress, and lets me enjoy all the small beautiful moments in the day. Excellent. Should is certain psychosis, and should is stress. Shoulda, coulda, woulda = never will. I prefer will, and I like mine free.
So sometimes the idea of “don’t just sit there do something” is good. Do something you don’t know how to do, then do it again. Sometimes it’s true that you shouldn’t just do something, you should sit there.
Your thoughts are welcome. Be well friends.