A weight can be a lightening of existence. Chains can be freedom. The prisoner knows what freedom is clearly.
You don’t have to ignore anything, quite the contrary, just choose. Have you ever really been burdened by a choice? Only because you have an idea of “should”, otherwise you work from desire. Does desire care for what you should?
Only for shampoo at the drugstore. I have to get the perfect one you know. If you have to get the perfect one, then never purchase shampoo, never purchase food either, never purchase clothes, never go left or right, or simply never perfect. I find it easier to never perfect. I don’t perfect my classes. I don’t perfect my thinking. I don’t perfect my roles. I just do and see, and then do again. When you never perfect anything, you get to experience a rare treat. You see anything for what it is really worth, and you don’t worry about trying to figure out what you are worth.
I know my baking tastes better when they aren’t all perfect. Some of the best food I have ever eaten has been hideous. Some of my best friends have been the people others judge as trash.
I’m working on doing things wrong. I see others do it effortlessly. Yes. Do it wrong. It isn’t hard to be good. It isn’t good to be hard, but being is good. Try doing nothing someday, which includes not avoiding. Avoiding something is doing something.
Oh, I’m sure I can fail at that. It’s a good practice. If you do nothing, everything still gets done, and there is nothing left to worry about.
How do you know you are avoiding vs. simply not doing? When you have to say, “Oh, I’ll do it later.” You are avoiding if you are choosing not to do. It’s draining avoiding so many things.
So how do you not choose and just not do? You don’t choose by being a part of events. When my wife asks me to do something, I do it, but I don’t DO it. There is no big thought behind it. I don’t deliberate on doing it right or how often I do it. I don’t bother with thinking about what I should get for doing it, or what a better use of my time is. It’s just a simple situation. She asks for tea and I get the tea for her, and it is simple joy.
And if you’re not in the mood to get tea? Then I would indicate so, but I find I don’t really develop those moods.
Do you say, “No, get it yourself?” I don’t do the thinking that would make me say that. I don’t build up the ideas around that activity that would make me not want to do it, and something else happens. This is really cool. I leave open the opportunity for her to see me for who I am, and what I am doing. Sometimes she wants tea, but doesn’t ask me. She just gets it, but it is her choice. You can have that choice taken away from you, if you live according to expectations with the idea you have to fill roles. This is why we are so pressured by others. The greater pressure doesn’t come from helping them, but from being helped by them.
Let people do for you. Let yourself do for others. Expect nothing, and everything can happen. Expect a fixed system, and your system will break.
Your thoughts are welcome. Be well friends.