Words aren’t evil, though fixation can be a source of pain.
I have been able to affect and help what most other people have considered “unreachable” people. Those who were supposedly too stubborn, hateful, or even mentally ill to hear reason from the general point of view. Most people reject these people. But the biggest portion of these people are who they are, and where they are, for a reason that if you accept, then you can either anticipate what you need to do for yourself in order to deal with them, or even have enough insight to perhaps guide them to a less destructive role.
It is hard to be around someone that clearly hates and abuses others. If you can’t be around someone who clearly hates and abuses others, then how will you avoid hate and abuse? Because they don’t have acceptance, they can’t give what they don’t have.
It makes good sense to stay clear of some abusers, but it is your attitude in that process that counts. If someone threatens to hit me, I accept that they will hit me and react accordingly. No confusion or fear needed.
Rejecting hate fuels hate, and I accept that I can know pain and survive. I have known a great deal of pain at the hands of strangers and loved ones, and I never moved forward by rejection. For those who see me as “wise”, I gained this by taking the punch, taking the insult, taking the animals growl. There is no mystery in fear other than what you create. Bravery is not the absence of fear, it’s the acceptance of it.
You aren’t saying that we should accept being hit and become a punching bag? No. I am saying you should accept it’s possible to be hit and not reject your reality and replace it with your expectations.
The people being hit are the ones who keep telling themselves it’s not possible? Yes.
Your thoughts are welcome. Be well friends.