Intimacy

Sex as we know it is biological, but intimacy is not biological. The primary cause of divorce is sex. Sexual issues. Lack of intimacy and communication, and the sexual issues arise because of the lack of intimacy and communication. If sex isn’t communication, what worth does it really have? What if you had been intimate with your partner? The way of intimacy is an act of love and will. It’s a bond as deep as our human connection. Intimacy is recognizing that you are alive in a living world, and accepting this truth.

“Communication leads to community, that is, to understanding, intimacy and mutual valuing.” Rollo May

“For a marriage relationship to flourish, there must be intimacy. It takes an enormous amount of courage to say to your spouse, “This is me. I’m not proud of it — in fact, I’m a little embarrassed by it — but this is who I am.” Bill Hybels

“Most people have come to prefer certain of life’s experiences and deny and reject others, unaware of the value of the hidden things that may come wrapped in plain and even ugly paper. In avoiding all pain and seeking comfort at all costs, we may be left without intimacy or compassion; in rejecting change and risk we often cheat ourselves of the quest; in denying our suffering we may never know our strength or our greatness.” Rachel Naomi Remen (American, clinical professor of family and community medicine at the University of California at San Francisco School of Medicine)