Romance

Romance is the emotional overtones. It’s the willingness to have the emotional component of the experience of your relationships. Romance isn’t a relationship role. It isn’t relationship behaviour. It’s something that goes beyond any one thing you think, or do, or even feel. Romance comes from the heart, not the head. You can’t learn it, but you can discover it. Romance is a quality of engagement, and as twisted as people make it, no wonder it isn’t well respected.

In the romantically immature stage we “fall in love with” the one we can identify with. Which is fine when our self awareness is shallow, but it can never last. We eventually need the truly “other.” That person we don’t really understand at all, but who we can open our heart to.

“Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable.” Bruce Lee (American Actor and martial arts expert. Born in San Francisco, California, USA 1940-1973)

“To love one’s self is the beginning of a life-long romance” Oscar Wilde (Irish Poet, Novelist, Dramatist and Critic, 1854-1900)