Spirituality for Living

People in the name of ego will refuse to take risks, and make choices. So their freedom of action is very limited. They refuse to make a mistake so they refuse to do anything at all. Thus in the name of ego they withhold themselves. They withhold there own happiness (which is infectious and a great gift) in the effort to save face. So they save the flimsy ugly Halloween mask, and as long as they play the role of ‘never wrong’, they also are locked into ‘never right’ and out of the world itself.

Uncertainty is a “silent killer”, and comes from protecting ego. If no decision is made then nothing can be done wrong. Is this actually true? They have a value judgement of needing to be always right to be good.

By not making the decision it can be wrong. The fact of the matter is even the [...] Continue to Seek…

We are not of our nature solitary creatures. When we feel lonely and make declarations of how we don’t need anyone, that isn’t about people. It’s about ourselves. We feel frustrated, so we try to deny that we have worth. In a perverse way it’s a tactic for putting ourselves on the side of those we perceive to reject us, and it doesn’t work. All loneliness is self rejection of our desire for love, of our desire to be in the world and to be seen, and can stymie our self expression and happiness as much if not more than the previous emotions of failure. We don’t need people to be us. We need to be us with people. Be in this world, and in this life.

As much as people like to talk about being independent, ultimately it’s a false self notion. Of our nature we are both goal [...] Continue to Seek…

Insecurity is another emotion that stops us. Emotions are not inherently bad, though people often declare that they are because they feel they are powerless to deal with them. Their emotions are how they are dealing. The emotion that makes us cuddle a lover or a child isn’t bad. But these emotions I speak of are stumbling blocks and are commonly misunderstood. They need not trip anyone up.

We feel like we should be able to achieve, and just keep a status quo. We get there and stay there, but that isn’t how life works so we feel insecurity. People get distracted from all of what they do in thinking about their goals.  But as is often said it’s not the destination, it’s the journey that matters.

Insecurity seems to be a serious mental plague in life doesn’t it? It comes from a false notion of security. What can endure in [...] Continue to Seek…

The next emotion of failure is aggression. Yet aggression is even more villainized in peoples minds than frustration is, and ignores huge parts of how the human mind works. It’s seen as more dramatic than frustration, but it is just another part of what is a very natural aspect of how we function.

Aggression doesn’t mean violence. To exert our will in the world, even to decide to give to another or help another get what they want, is inherently an aggressive act. It isn’t wrong. Studies show that more so than even love, there is a need in human beings to be able to express and release aggression. Even more so than affection, aggression needs outlets. They have found a direct relationship between the ability to feel both. They have shown that your capacity to feel love and affection follows a direct ratio to your ability to feel aggression.

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The first emotion of failure is frustration. People mistake frustration, and take feeling frustrated personally. Frustration is at first a feeling, both natural and valid. It comes about when we are thwarted from achieving something we were highly motivated to achieve, but it doesn’t usually stop at a feeling. We have emotions about the feeling. Ways we feel compelled to act when we are frustrated. One typical reaction is to believe that because we were frustrated in our action, that we can’t or aren’t supposed to do it. But you wanted to do it, and that doesn’t go away so you become depressed. Is this in any way empowering?

Frustration feels really bad doesn’t it? But it serves a purpose. We feel frustrated because we are goal pursuing creatures. It’s a natural reaction when we run into a wall, but we reject the feeling and therefore lose a chance at [...] Continue to Seek…

Failure is one of the biggest demons anyone faces, and poorly understood in part because people feel it has to be understood as they conceive of it. Natures wisdom gives us what are very natural negative feedback mechanisms, but in our thinking we tend to push them aside. In doing so we are controlled by them rather than controlling them. Like pain itself, the biggest aspect of pain management that they teach in hospitals is not being afraid of the pain response. Yet we take our feelings, the ones we don’t like, and decide because it’s supposedly wisdom, to not have them.

The idea of failure is actually pretty crippling. It is a self fulfilling prophecy, and the biggest reason for that is we villainize the feelings that lead to failure. We don’t allow ourselves to feel them, and learn from them. They lead to failure not on their own, [...] Continue to Seek…

We complain about the modern Christmas being commercialized, but our ancestors did a lot of fortune seeking at that time of year even before the age of super malls and trendy stores. There was also a running debate regarding praying to angels, and this is part of why angels are a related image in Christmas. They were seen as household guardian aspects of divinity. Gifts were not only given to living loved ones, but were also offered at gravesites and in natural springs. Any place considered to have a link to the underworld.

The Yule log was a gift to the sun. Food having a lot of meaning during the winter season, and many of the holidays have a symbolic link to food. Like crop harvesting with Kwanzaa, or Christmas ham I believe it is in Wales. The boar was considered very spirited and strong. To consume it on Christmas was [...] Continue to Seek…

Strangely, as the places around the world seem to have very different climate and we associate this season with winter, the actual universally symbolic element is the winter solstice. Many of even the modern traditions are focused on and symbolize the observation of the lengthening hours of sunlight, the observed resurgence of the “son/sun”.

The universal elements of the winter solstice holidays usually are meant to be a renewing of hope, and a reassurance of the fertility of the new year. The new year only starts in January in the Roman calendar, but it starts in December using a lunar calendar. Someone was commenting earlier in December how she felt almost like a new year had begun. Even in this day and age, we do still have a sense of the rhythms that led to natural calendars and seasonal holidays in the first place.

Many of our modern Christmas imagery stems [...] Continue to Seek…

Channelling is usually involuntary. Like those of flesh and blood they want me to do stuff, but don’t want to compensate nor return favours. So I generally resistant. But with someone yammering in your ear even if you ignore them…like example, ever be typing when someone is talking to you, and you type a word they say? I do it though I can sort it out, and sometimes I even say things. Depending on how I feel, I will just go with it.

Do you remember what they say if you type, or is it only in the words on the screen? I do, but only because I’m not here or there, and sometimes I don’t remember clearly.

Is it confusing, or are you used to it? Not any more than dealing with people in general.

In the Egyptian book of the dead, they speak of encountering many of what are the [...] Continue to Seek…

You may seek surrender yet people don’t seem willing to let you, and they accuse you of not being responsible so you obey. But in obeying that, you disobey your spirit who needs the surrender to be whole. Where you may get confused, is you mistake surrender for obedience and discover you can’t do that.

What you desire is to move with the yang energy, in doing that embrace your yin nature. Do you notice you like feeling the energy at parties? You are not driven yourself, but enjoy the company of those who are? You will do things on your own, but when with another it’s like you feel whole and it feels right to do it when otherwise it doesn’t? It feels safe, but it is more than safe. It lets you ride and support, which makes you feel loved and valuable. You want to ride the yang [...] Continue to Seek…