You can’t convince yourself your dreams are meaningless and have meaning in your waking experience.
We don’t consider change very often as a rule, yet we get heavily invested in avoiding it, and keeping a picture of the world and ourselves, even if we profess to not like the world. Some of the most resistant people to change also eagerly say the world sucks, but when you point it back at them, then “Oh no, no”, they can’t change their thinking, and heaven forbid they change their doing.
Do we resist change when we are ok with the world? Why does life seem so out of control if we can get in our comfort zone and stay there? I would offer that change happens even to allow us to stay in our comfort zone, but we don’t resist the change that we aren’t focused on. The change we resist originates with fear, otherwise it just happens and if you hear of it you smile maybe, and say “that’s interesting” if you pay any attention at all.
We seem to lack control of our lives not because of change, or even because of staying in our comfort zones. Those are just states of being, like water being able to be ice or mist. In the end it’s just water. We are in this world, yet we look at it with one eye, and with half a heart. It has become the norm to say “Well that doesn’t matter to me”, or “I have to look out for myself”. It is exclusionary thinking.
We trust the mind that creates the fearful change. We become aware of a threat and impending change, because we are in the state of mind that would make us focus on that. We might not have strategically caused it, but we were still involved even if we in our fear avoid having anything to do with it. Treat the feared change like a plague, and our behavior still changes, and it is still connected to the very thing you fear.
There isn’t the world “out there” that has power over you, and can change unfairly. The world tends to be what it is. There are fires and floods, earthquakes and destructive storms. These have always been, and yet we manage to live anyway. So why when a paradigm shift comes up, some small change that we are certain to survive, do we become insane with fear? Life seems out of control and society so lost, because people see their own lives, and the lives of their friends and loved ones.
A flood does not require us to change as people? You don’t remember a flood? You won’t choose to live elsewhere if a flood happens, or take some other corrective action? Who is this you that the flood doesn’t affect?
Sure, but it wouldn’t change the person I was really. I don’t disagree, but we don’t really fear that events can happen. What makes us fear change is changing as a person.
Your thoughts are welcome. Be well friends.