You will abusively cuddle and play with your one year old? Because you selfishly want to see smiles and laughter? Impose a doctrine of happiness and learning by mistakes? Heretic!
You worry about the state of the world for them of course. You see a vulnerable little boy or girl. You don’t think of your vulnerability, but the idea they could be hurt. Now that is scary. The school system, the employment system, the immunizations, the conflicts. It’s not a lot of positive to offer there.
Some fathers give no sense of place. Conceive illegitimately, and get married for that reason. No great or even much mild love for each other. Duty, and duty breeds resentment. For others the father leaves before the child is born, leaving a mother who is torn between resentment and guilt. I can’t say much for this alternative.
Another may have the nuclear family around. You see the other side. You see why families break maybe, and what happens if they refuse to. Nuclear is a relatively new term. Families used to be extended. They would be raised with cousins like they were your siblings, and defer to aunts and uncles like they were your parents. They would be living together on the family holdings, and likely succeeding or failing financially together.
There is one viable alternative, only one. Simply love. Don’t underestimate parental love. I had only a little of it, and I suspect you have it in you even if it was absent from your childhood. It matters does it not? Every little bit matters.
Your thoughts are welcome. Be well friends.
Travis Saunders
Dragon Intuitive
~science,mysticism,spirituality~