To the degree that you defer to the wisdom of this life that brought someone so amazing as you into being, accept that you are meant to be, and feel, and have desires, and take actions according to the dictates of your heart.
You can be loved for your social image, and you will not in any moment feel loved to the degree that peoples behaviour toward you is based on social image. You will fail to ever feel really acknowledged or validated. The split is not actually the other persons fault, and it’s not under their control.
That must be why people exclaim “You don’t understand me” in a relationship. They’re probably operating on their social image, so it’s more their fault then the others? Yes. They say familiarity breeds contempt. They are right, and we are intimately familiar with social images.
People ultimately respect the real. They respect the terrible wind storm. They respect that the sea will in time drown them. They respect those things that give them no doubts. So why do we? Why do we give people room for doubt? Why do we present the unreal? Why are we wearing these masks that don’t even have the substance of our Halloween costumes?
I think the phrase “The good guy finishes last” is talking about the guy who operates on social image? The guy who subscribes rigidly to the good guy image, and who actually has no idea of what a man of virtue is or what they might do.
Many animals attract mates with colourful plumes, or dance, or bring gifts. That’s all the same thing. We want to stand out. Well… Humans are attracting longs strings of divorce. The reason why image works for animals is because there is a bottom line. The bottom line with animals is immediate and abundantly present. The window dressing doesn’t hide the realities of how they live. Humanity has hidden a lot under their social / economic model.
One example that might not be common knowledge. The sensitive in humans is disregarded or seen as a lunatic. But in animals a distress cry is heeded. It doesn’t matter who it comes from or why.
Even the non dominant male still has a role in social animals. They may mate little or not at all, but animals don’t ignore the plain and simple virtue of presence. Law of averages means greater numbers leads to greater success, and hoarding food leads to the whole pride or pack dying. The alpha male can’t survive on his own, but we think hoarding is smart, evidence of skill and strength.
Your thoughts are welcome. Be well friends.