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Failure Demon
Failure is one of the biggest demons anyone faces, and poorly understood in part because people feel it has to be understood as they conceive of it. Natures wisdom gives us what are very natural negative feedback mechanisms, but in our thinking we tend to push them aside. In doing so we are controlled by…
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Frustration In Failure
The first emotion of failure is frustration. People mistake frustration, and take feeling frustrated personally. Frustration is at first a feeling, both natural and valid. It comes about when we are thwarted from achieving something we were highly motivated to achieve, but it doesn’t usually stop at a feeling. We have emotions about the feeling.…
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Aggressions Purpose
The next emotion of failure is aggression. Yet aggression is even more villainized in peoples minds than frustration is, and ignores huge parts of how the human mind works. It’s seen as more dramatic than frustration, but it is just another part of what is a very natural aspect of how we function. Aggression doesn’t…
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Seeking Security
Insecurity is another emotion that stops us. Emotions are not inherently bad, though people often declare that they are, because they feel they are powerless to deal with them. Their emotions are how they are dealing. The emotion that makes us cuddle a lover or a child isn’t bad, but these emotions I speak of…
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Desire for Love
We are not of our nature solitary creatures. When we feel lonely and make declarations of how we don’t need anyone, that isn’t about people. It’s about ourselves. We feel frustrated, so we try to deny that we have worth. In a perverse way it’s a tactic for putting ourselves on the side of those…
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Silent Killer
People in the name of ego will refuse to take risks, and make choices. So their freedom of action is very limited. They refuse to make a mistake so they refuse to do anything at all. Thus in the name of ego they withhold themselves. They withhold there own happiness (which is infectious and a…
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Resentment Cripples
Resentment is an effort to address what has passed, and you cannot influence. It keeps you very much trapped in ego, and keeps you from maintaining much of what you value and want to keep in life, let alone new things. Resentment is an effort to undo something in your past. Something you can’t undo.…
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Empty Success
There are those who jumped every hurdle, play the game perfectly, and none of it was ever them. They learn the game really well, but because they weren’t coming from that place inside of them they succeeded to fail. It was success, but not their success. They started off on some one else’s foot, so…
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Being Happy
Is happiness the indicator of success? Yes, when you are self fulfilled then you are successful. It’s more than most peoples understanding of happiness. When you are on your path, it just feels right. Everything feels right. Happiness is a state of mind? No, true happiness is a state of being. Contentment is another valid…
Category: Failure
Failure is composed of a set of destructive emotions. F=frustration, A=aggression, I=insecurity, L=loneliness, U= uncertainty, R=resentment, E=emptiness, but emotions and feelings are not the same. Emotions are conditioned action. Feeling is innate sensitivity. The idea of failure is actually pretty crippling. It is a self fulfilling prophecy, and the biggest reason for that is we villainize the feelings that lead to failure.
They say in Taoism that if on the way you encounter resistance, it’s not because it’s impossible, you just don’t know the way yet.
“There are no failures – just experiences and your reactions to them.” Tom Krause (motivational speaker, Teacher and Coach, b.1934)
“My imperfections and failures are as much a blessing from God as my successes and my talents and I lay them both at his feet.” Mahatma Gandhi (Indian Philosopher, internationally esteemed for his doctrine of nonviolent protest, 1869-1948)