We don’t find freedom by knowing fear inside and out. We merely find that we can be free and hop back in the hole most times. People are in love with the devil they know.
Could charity and peace be the same thing? Is charity giving someone what they want?
You can’t say what someone else needs, so maybe yes. It’s letting them have what they want. Oh yes, charity is letting them have what they want, which requires letting yourself have what you want which is peace in those affairs. That is wisdom. Charity exists as a concept only, because people have a sense of proper order. The greater good. If you have to bend your knee to everyone, is that charity or tyranny?
I’ve heard this before when people talk about niceness. Being nice means doing whatever someone asks of you, even if you don’t want to. The masses have proven to be this worlds worst tyrant. This is why I have no compunction against being “not nice”. I have thrown out a fair number of social rules and my only reason for discarding these rules is I simply do not comprehend them. I cannot follow them.
I’ve been told I’m SO nice and then I’m a bitch when I say no. They use the idea of being nice to coerce you.
Man, I’m swearing today sorry! We are all adults here, and you are not engaging in verbal assault.
The ones calling me bitch are! Because they know it would bother me. They are yes. If you are a bitch, it just means you are running with your pack. A case of pot calling the kettle black.
Yes, I should be proud of it. You are giving them the gift of a reality check. Sometimes, the most generous thing you can do for a suffering person is help them cry. Can you truly claim to cheer someone, if you can’t accept that you can grieve someone? The worst thing I ever did to the person who at the time was my best friend, was help them.
I know a lot of men who need to cry. You likely do, and you likely know just as many who need to rant and rage.
Too much macho pride so it turns to temper. Or too much “good boy” decency, or supposed decency.
Have you ever received something you needed from someone and wound up regretting it?
I often feel sheepish for not realising I needed it, but they seem to have known.
Is why I’ve made a point of not getting things from people I know.
Why did you regret it?
There can be strings attached. I wonder if I’m suppose to do something in return, and if they ask, I feel obligated. Like swallowing the poisoned kool-aid, it might taste fine, but corrupts your life.
What can you say in reply to someone that says, “You owe me a favour.”? You can do them a favour, and give them the event they have been looking for, like I have been experiencing with attendees today.
But if you know they are doing something for you and expecting something in return… I have refused help for this reason and the person doesn’t back off, and then they come back later and say you owe me. I let people help me, then I reveal how they harmed me. People do insist on their good which they project as the greater good, or insist that they see no evil, hear no evil. Where is this greater good?
If this were hell, what would you give? What would you ever give anyone? If this were heaven, what would you keep to yourself? What is the difference between the two?
Your thoughts are welcome. Be well friends.