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What is Betrayal?
If you can state it simply, what is betrayal, friends? A deliberate veering from the truth. Breaking someone’s trust. Loss of trust. When someone, or some entity, doesn’t behave according to our preferred expectations of them? Veering away from an agreed expectation without consideration for the other party. Acting in such a way as to…
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Recovery from Betrayal
For some people the violation of their assumptions has moved them to end their lives. As sad as this is, even then there is still a reason for it. Our minds are incapable of accurately modeling inconsistency. So when a positive assumption is violated, its negative counterpart can seem as omnipresent and omnipotent as the…
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Why We Feel Betrayed
Now most of us don’t really fall into the manic personality type, so we are capable of some degree of recategorization, and yet we still feel betrayed. Why is that? Because we were operating on assumptions that didn’t pan out? That is the reason it repeats, but not why it happens initially. Our grasp of…
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Our Betrayals
The first betrayal we all struggle with is self-betrayal, to the point that a great many spiritual teachings capitalize on ideas of how they can free us from ourselves. There should be no appeal to the suggestion that we can leave ourselves behind. We are meant to live as these selves, live as this flesh,…
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Be True
I am a huge fan of superstition. I believe in it with all my being. The literal definition of the component words that went into the word superstition just meant surviving belief. But my belief in superstition requires principles for superstition, reasons and motivation behind it. Superstition is surviving belief, and good superstitions should have…
Category: Betrayal
We live our lives with a set of assumptions. It’s absolutely necessary for our physical and emotional well-being. These assumptions are also fragile. For some, their core assumptions are broad and delicate. For others, there assumptions are narrow and rigidly defined, but literally everyone has them.
For some people the violation of their assumptions has moved them to end their lives but not everyone self-destructs in the face of betrayal. For those who do not, how is it they recover? What allows recovery from betrayal is learning to avoid broad generalization.
“One should rather die than be betrayed. There is no deceit in death. It delivers precisely what it has promised. Betrayal, though … betrayal is the willful slaughter of hope.” Steven Deitz (American Playwright and Dramatist, b.1958)
“Betrayal is the only truth that sticks.” Arthur Miller (American Playwright, 1915-2005)