'Betrayal' Chapter


We live our lives with a set of assumptions. It’s absolutely necessary for our physical and emotional well-being. These assumptions are also fragile. For some, their core assumptions are broad and delicate. For others, there assumptions are narrow and rigidly defined, but literally everyone has them.

For some people the violation of their assumptions has moved them to end their lives but not everyone self-destructs in the face of betrayal. For those who do not, how is it they recover? What allows recovery from betrayal is learning to avoid broad generalization.

“One should rather die than be betrayed. There is no deceit in death. It delivers precisely what it has promised. Betrayal, though … betrayal is the willful slaughter of hope.” Steven Deitz (American Playwright and Dramatist, b.1958)

“Betrayal is the only truth that sticks.” Arthur Miller (American Playwright, 1915-2005)

What is Betrayal?

If you can state it simply, what is betrayal, friends? A deliberate veering from the truth. Breaking someone’s trust. Loss of trust. When someone, or some entity, doesn’t behave according to our preferred expectations of them? Veering away from an… Seek More

Recovery from Betrayal

For some people the violation of their assumptions has moved them to end their lives. As sad as this is, even then there is still a reason for it. Our minds are incapable of accurately modeling inconsistency. So when a… Seek More

Why We Feel Betrayed

Now most of us don’t really fall into the manic personality type, so we are capable of some degree of recategorization, and yet we still feel betrayed. Why is that? Because we were operating on assumptions that didn’t pan out?… Seek More

Our Betrayals

The first betrayal we all struggle with is self-betrayal, to the point that a great many spiritual teachings capitalize on ideas of how they can free us from ourselves. There should be no appeal to the suggestion that we can… Seek More

Be True

I am a huge fan of superstition. I believe in it with all my being. The literal definition of the component words that went into the word superstition just meant surviving belief. But my belief in superstition requires principles for… Seek More