'Forgiveness' Chapter


The need for forgiveness is universal. Forgiveness is not someone else’s sanction. You do not need anyone’s permission to exist. Forgiveness is just tolerance for error. It has nothing to do with altering someone else’s state of mind, that’s well outside of anyone’s realm of influence. When someone comes to you seeking forgiveness, they are actually just seeking consolation, affirmation that you and they are at peace. They cannot ask you for what they will not give themselves.

Forgiving is not forgetting. Forgiving is seeing any event as it is, just an event, one of many possible events that can happen at any given time, and realizing that as anything arises it can just as certainly fall away. The only thing that persists is your own attitude.

“When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.” Catherine Ponder

“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” Lewis B. Smedes

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” Mahatma Gandhi (Indian Philosopher, internationally esteemed for his doctrine of nonviolent protest, 1869-1948)

Purpose of Forgiveness

What is the purpose of forgiveness, friends? To let something go, not to continue to live it. I have an awkward history with forgiveness. I was not forgiven for not forgiving. It is releasing the hold that person’s words or… Seek More

See What Is Right

Identifying something as wrong… Has that ever done anything useful for you, friends? Served a constructive purpose? Is that like me saying I wish I had done this or that? Yes. Does that make you function better? Einstein had an… Seek More

Feel The Heart

How do you feel the heart? When you are in your community, the events around you happen all of themselves. Everyone sees everyone else. Everyone is aware to some degree of everything that is going on in their environment. You… Seek More

Clearing Your Head

I am convinced emotion is a big part of memory. It’s been proven, to the point of a phenomenon called flashbulb memory. When you are in pain or afraid, your amygdale underscores every element of that event. Then will replay… Seek More

Starting Over

Anyone get really ticked off lately? End:CIV – In a nutshell, it talks about how civilization as we know it is the ‘machine’ that is destroying the planet. Ah yes, also known (though not commonly) as the cyberpunk movement. So why… Seek More

Your Power

Can you better the world by practicing forgiveness? I would say you can interact with it with more wisdom and clarity, so potentially yes. Not directly, but yes your point is valid. I’ve said this before, but people can use… Seek More

Forgiveness Is For You

Forgiveness is giving up all hope for a better past. That sums it up perfectly. You are here now. Can you be here now if you have old grudges in your mind? Can you pay full attention to your life… Seek More

Forgiveness Is Not Permissiveness

Forgiveness is not permissiveness. If you shove me, I will not like it. If you shove me, I won’t appreciate it at first. It isn’t pleasant to be shoved, but I will take a moment and look around. If you… Seek More

What Good Is Judgement?

Let’s argue the other side of things. What good do your judgements do for you? Has anyone had a better life from things they judged? I could say they help you avoid danger. Wasn’t that your experiences? I have heard many… Seek More