Unity is about embracing the reality of who you are and letting that serve as the center of your whole life.
Way to Love
Being alone, as I understand it, is often a production of our thoughts making us think we’re alone? Yes, I agree, but it’s not an original thought. It’s an afterthought that arises from the series of expectations we are taught, and seems true in that system of thinking, though it is in no way factually true.
Of that I have no doubt, but until we know it in ourselves, we remain with it. It can fool us as well? People are heavily invested in consensus, and think that the consensus is the way to love. That only by those rules can one know love, or have love. This is the exact opposite of the truth. The consensus is arbitrary, and almost totally unreflective of the nature of the human soul, or reality itself.
Love is acceptance, and not compromise? Exactly, and the only way the consensus could have ever been formed was by compromise. Reality as we know it has been grossly compromised. It can be said that love is sanity, and we are not in it. We talk to people who say they are totally in love as if they are a little out of touch with reality, and in a sense they are, and that’s good.
If love is sanity, is it the attachment that causes the pain in love? Yes. Attachment isn’t love. Love is an opening principle, the willingness to allow those we care about to be exactly who and how they are. Attachment excludes that. To be attached you have to identify something as exclusively desirable, and focus your energies on fostering that one desirable thing.
The individuals own needs can color the love, and cause the attachment? No, need doesn’t foster attachment. Hunger is satiated. Attachment is not situational, and isn’t adaptive, or pragmatic. Some people have an attachment to food. A serious obsession with the “worth” of food, and thus pursue food and its consumption all out of balance with nature. It isn’t love, nor is it their need. People confuse the terms ‘need’ and ‘attachment’. They are not synonymous. Needs are natural, but attachment isn’t. Attachment arises from the insecurities created by human reliance on rationalization.
By confusing the need and attachment we don’t give our needs place, and then the whole spiral of “bad me” starts? Yes, where “not me” would be more accurate.
Your thoughts are welcome. Be well friends.