Sadness isn’t itself a virtue. You know your heart best when it breaks, and you can come to see, that though you feel grief, your heart isn’t actually “broken”.
Shall we look at things a different way? Perhaps just one person, who wants to volunteer?
I’ll volunteer. Excellent. Ok, you wake up in the morning, your behaviour is wide open. No rules. The entire world is your playground just like when you were a kid. What do you do in that morning?
Hmmm… Take the dogs to the park, then have brunch with friends. Excellent, does that take up your morning?
I might have time for something else. What would you do in addition to that? The world is all access to you.
I was assuming my boyfriend was not here, but if he was, I’d talk to him. So yes, talking with him is an option. So you would talk to him instead of the park trip and brunch or in addition?
I would take him with me. Ah, excellent. Ok, now it’s the beginning of midday, and you have access to any place, any facility, any resources. What would you do during the busy part of the day?
Can I be anywhere instantly? Yes, and you can have started your day anywhere.
Well, then, I’d go to Paris with him and explore the city. Sight seeing.
Or maybe see the sloths in Costa Rica and take photos. Have you considered a career in journalism?
No, I don’t really want to be where the action is, or interview people. Paris is where the action is, no?
It doesn’t have to be. I can linger in a museum. Is it possible that you don’t want to struggle with the unfamiliar?
I’m fearless if I have a friend with me. Excellent.
You can take over any activity. What would you take over? The buses? A restaurant? Maybe airlines? Everything is fair game.
A friend has an art studio on his farm that he rents out and lets them use his printing presses. I might like to do something like that. Ah ok, so you take over a printing press or a farm?
A farm. What kind of farm?
With animals and printing presses, but not too big. Ah, a learning farm?
Yes, and my boyfriend could make pies. Have you ever thought of this before?
Aspects of it. Not a complete picture?
We’ve talked about putting up a studio on his family’s land and having lots of animals.
We have been playing. This is what play does, and well, your partner does have to be included as you do want him also.
As Jerry Seinfeld said at his show, we’re here because we had nothing better to do, so we made this up. That’s playing. Yes, we travel only to get to new seats.
Ok, so it’s late afternoon, you can wrap up the day in any way you want. How do you? Literally, any way you want. You just have to actually want it.
Go for a walk in the woods, have dinner. Maybe he would make something wonderful, maybe watch a movie.
Ok, see how this process works? Any discontinuity here?
Your thoughts are welcome. Be well friends.