The question in life is not “What is my purpose?” That question just makes us look really silly. The biggest question in life is “Are we having fun yet?
Now to the heart of the matter, shall we?
Our range or capacity for good or growth or evolution, whatever you prefer, is entirely dependant on our ability to accept duality. Your ability to grow is entirely dependant on accepting what you are not.
So yes, your defeat or failure is entirely necessary for your well being, and your failure is in fact a compliment to you personally. It is the mirror that lets you see yourself clearly as long as you do not distort it with prejudice. The more you learn the less you know.
The higher you climb the further you fall? Yes, all true. In time, you can come to realize that perfection is the circle that has its circumference nowhere and its center everywhere. Meaning there is no absolute point to climb to beyond your own potential, nor is there any point to fall beyond that is really beneath you.
Your utmost point of despair contains all the same wisdom as your highest ecstatic experience of unity. So if you visualize this circle as a yin yang circle, whether the territory appears negative or positive you are still in the same state. There can be no fall from grace, just a loss of balance
It also feels that all happens at once within the circle. Indeed. You find your balance point when you accept where you are. You accept where you are when you realize where you are not.
Center of the circle. And yes, we are all ultimately at the center of the great medicine wheel. For me, the ideal of rapture, the height of unity with God and the bliss of divine love, are my compliment. They are what I am not, but they also run all through what I am. They shape and empower every artefact of my experience, and I have that light to clarify my perception. For others, they might grow by coming to appreciate the shadows in their life, those dark lines that make the distinct truths they seek to embrace so very much clearer, and maybe when they recognize that there is no enemy in the darkness, then they will experience less of the illusion of contradiction.
Then you see all as one. I do, yes. The saint can call an innocent a fetter. Buddha named his son fetter, meaning shackle.
Your thoughts are welcome. Be well friends.