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Actual freedom is not seperation from anything, but rather the recognition of the meaning in the walls that surround you.

Avoidance Behaviour in Work


Perhaps another question. What do you most fear?

Isolation. Anyone else? I myself most fear confusion.

I fear being alone.

I fear a wasted effort.


If you think about it, the fears you have that spring most readily to mind are social. They have even found that the body and brain react to social ostracism as if it were a physical injury. Do you fear you might cut yourself or fall ill at any moment? Do you fear spontaneous violent assault?

No. The reason you don’t fear these things is because we have an instinctive and automatic frame of reference or filter for our own sense of well being.

In my job, I am on the edge, all the time, of violent assault. We can learn to fear some things due to exposure. Those tend to be special case scenarios.

I fear buzzing ever since I disturbed a hornets nest and got attacked, but I know I can’t avoid all hornets.

What would life be like if all we did was work to avoid fear? Avoid feared things and circumstances?

It wouldn’t be very productive.

I guess it’s how people “face” living. I know a person that has four locks on his door and a bar to put on when he goes to sleep. So, it’s also how people think.

This avoidance behaviour is what people call real life. It makes up most people’s real lives almost entirely. But we have a conflicting urge, something even more powerful than fear, and it tends to really twist our experience. We seek to restore our core self, that primal sense of connection to our loved ones, and in order to do this we will even endure all the things we fear, suffer everything and all of it in a life time, but to what end? How well does this work for us? Anyone feel fully connected and at peace with / in love with their familiars? Their friends and family and community? If not why not? If so what fosters this in your life?

There is only so much time in the day. Why does time on hand matter?

Lots to do. You can’t always spend the time with loved ones that you want. We have a will to live, which has become intimately linked to our sense of fear, and because our will to live is linked with our sense of fear, our sense of pleasure is also linked to our sense of fear. Can you eat fast food without being aware of its risks? Let’s take a house pet as an alternative example. Is a cat’s sense of napping all tied up in its sense of fear? Or its desire to eat? Why not? Is the link between the will to live and fear not natural?

That level of anxiety can’t be natural.

Your thoughts are welcome. Be well friends.

Travis Saunders
Dragon Intuitive

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