Not having what you want won’t make you saintly. If you’re damned if you do, and damned if you don’t, you might as well go ahead.
I will start by asking, What is kindness?
Treating people as they wish to be treated.
Treating someone with consideration for their well-being.
Freeing people to be themselves.
We all know what kindness is when we experience it from others, but evaluating what kindness is in a concrete sense isn’t as simple as it may seem, no?
Kindness is acceptance and tolerance for other people wishes, and your own.
Is kindness for the deserving, or for everybody? What about the needy?
It seems to depend on how it’s received as much as how it’s given.
The harsh person you would rather not talk to, do they deserve kindness?
It depends on why they are being harsh. Ah, which we determine mostly from our personal point of view, which means we only half comprehend why anyone does anything as we are mostly concerned with our own affairs.
Yes and that isn’t selfish, its survival.
If kindness is a resource, then it seems like it’s something that should be rationed and managed, and there is some argument for viewing kindness as a resource. We only have so much time and energy in a day. Kindness in the conventional sense taken to the extreme is cruelty for the practitioner, is this not so? The person becomes a martyr and poisonous for the beneficiaries of that kindness.
It would be very draining as kindness most often seems to also require patience. It does, as do a great many things in life. If someone you knew did everything you wanted, every time you wanted something from them and always sacrificed their own well-being, their needs and desires, how would it feel to be the recipient of that kindness?
Unworthy . . .
Like you can’t do anything for yourself.
It would do harm not only to your sense of individuality but to your own capacity for kindness. If real kindness is supposed to lead to self-ruination, then your initial desire is itself implicitly harmful, and if desire is harmful, where do you find the meaning in life? If your every wish was immediately fulfilled by anyone around you, could you have communication? Companionship?
Somehow your ‘will’ would be lost, short circuited.
I used to have trouble accepting gifts from people when there was no occasion, but I realise it made the person feel good when it was out of the blue so I accept gifts within reason from people I know well. Surprises are exciting.
A guy I knew for only a day kept sending me lindens. His motive for giving me money felt insincere. Like there was some awkward attempt being made to purchase your friendship? Yes, it felt very awkward.
It wasn’t necessary as I like him already. Poor self-esteem perhaps.
It seems like you’d get out of touch with reality if all wishes were fulfilled.
The meaning of kindness would be lost if all wishes were fulfilled.
Your thoughts are welcome. Be well friends.