You can change reality mearly by correctly directing peoples focus.
Let’s explore that concept of denial as selective focus. If we see selection as denial, it leads to the notion of their being a single outcome does it not? That we can rule out outcomes by rejection of elements of our experience. Anyone ever succeed at that?
I think persistence can be fruitful. Does denial aid persistence?
It usually messes up our plans.
Usually, you have to replace one habit with another. Just denying one doesn’t work.
When we think of change as replacement, it implies removal of something does it not? Does that actually happen with change? In my experience, it does not. Every time something seemed to be removed, the potential for it remained. I thought perhaps I had found a way to change a habit, but with just the right amount of stress in the right time and place, and the habit behaves as if it were never gone. Is this different for anyone else?
I can stay away from sugar as long as it isn’t in the house, but once in a while, I crave it. But then it doesn’t taste as good as I remember. Is it gone from your life? Mostly. Could it be gone entirely? And if I recall you like wine. A different kind of sugar.
Well, I offer that change doesn’t operate in a heuristic way. Does any event happen if nothing occurs in our awareness?
Not to us. What is the difference between an idea occurring to you and an event occurring to you? If you had an experience, and over time it ceased to be present as anything other than an idea, is the experience itself gone?
No one else can see the idea. I think perhaps other people can see your ideas. Your ideas show up in the behavior of your attention, your attentional focus, and the pattern through which it shifts. I think people can see your ideas in your body language as you move through the world and encounter people places and things. I think people hear even the ideas you don’t choose to put to words in your style of speech. The things you choose to remark on, the topics you choose to avoid. I think they see your ideas in your home, both in things that are present and in things that are conspicuously absent.
Your thoughts are welcome. Be well friends.