If you believe you exist because of what you do, then every moment you are unrealized.
Does it matter whether more choices are made by the head or the heart? Is one more satisfying? Ultimately, they should be allies, but if they aren’t in harmony, the choices of the heart matter more. They are truer to life and reality, but only the open heart shows wisdom. Feel for that flower you picked. Feel for that cow you ate a part of when you ordered that Big Mac. But, feel for yourself first.
“This above all: To thine own self be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man.” William Shakespeare.
You exist because you are meant to exist. You are the ultimate meaning. You also exist because your parents exist, and your children would exist because you exist, and we all exist because the world exists. This is the proper order of things. Call no being a living lie, judge no one false, not even yourself.
I guess our guilt comes from not feeling the self-first? Guilt is a derangement. Do more for yourself and no one else? Do more for yourself and in that doing you will want to do for others. I do things for my wife because it pleases me. I do things for my cat because it pleases me. I help my friends because it pleases me. I am never disappointed in that, never misguided in that. When you think you should do something for another reason, that is when the poison sets in. I have a good family, and I feel good. My decisions to help my family and friends, and even my community when I feel like that, always satisfy my personal needs.
I do when hubby shares chocolate with me. I sometimes share chocolate with my wife when she would deny it to herself. I sometimes don’t even want chocolate, but it is nice to be asked. Yes. The option itself is a gift. Creating choices is a real contribution. Imagining possibilities is an example of creating choices. Inspiring hope is another example. We all benefit in this.
I hope this was good for you, my friends. Your presence here is good for me.
Be well my friends, and be before you do yourself to death.