The way of thought is the way of definition. A focusing of the minds eye to see details better. People mistake control for artifice, though artifice inevitably fails.
A very passive guy. Hates confrontation of any kind. Hates even to criticize anyone. He is also funny. He gets so frustrated with people, because they don’t seem to understand how to “act right.” They do not treat him as he treats them. Just call him names all the time or don’t know how to behave. Then he goes to their level and feels really bad about it. So to avoid that he avoids people, and is having trouble making friends because of that.
Better to have fewer expectations? But this doesn’t really comfort him. He can’t think of people as morons and feel good about socializing. He gets stuck in guilt at judging people.
They may not all be morons. They might just be bullies or simply stoned. In Second Life you can tell a lot by reading what they say in their profile. People often say a lot about themselves not by their literal words, but by their style of word patterning. Their habits of word choice.
Like F*** and S*** and every adjective and noun they forget. They forget mostly because they can’t think too well. That’s a big one, yes. Though I have met foul mouthed people who were very friendly and loyal too. So it’s not an absolute.
It’s just a sort of brain damage or their upbringing? You can denote an anxious temperament, yes. Anxiety makes idiots out of anybody.
I could never relate to “Cheech and Chong” movies, even in the midst of hippie culture. I could somewhat. There is something to be said for “primitive” thought.
Has he tried to reach into groups that may not be his “norm”? Maybe find a different type of people? Like the people who socialize at “One World, Many Paths“? They say birds of a feather flock together. If you know of someone you greatly enjoy and admire (it should be both), then you can look in the social circles they are in.
I have a friend who complains of meeting a certain type of man over and over. It drives her nuts. It isn’t about the guys in your friends case. It’s about her lack of self reflection.
Yet most of the people in my girly boy fur group seem like annoying dingbats. Most are annoying dingbats, because most are not very self aware. There was a type of person in Native American culture. They were called Berdache. They were men who were of their nature called to be “feminine.” They lived in the tribe and occupied a social role of a female, and they were considered especially holy. In touch with something about the spirit that other people didn’t see.
Native American cultures had two medicine societies and it wasn’t gender inequality. Medicine men were one, and they had their understanding. Medicine women were another, and they had their mysteries. There wasn’t really any inequality. Often wise men and wise women even married, though just as often they remained single. It was considered strange, but just another mystery of the spirit world. They didn’t tell their wise folk what to do. They asked them what they should do. So being a girly boy is fine. They just aren’t on your level of girly boyness.
When we see things in others that we don’t like and that upset us, it gets to us because we are all reflections of one another. We don’t want to believe that we could be the same way under different circumstances. Yes. Two energies, same mirror.
Your thoughts are welcome. Be well friends.