'Romance' Chapter


Romance is the emotional overtones. It’s the willingness to have the emotional component of the experience of your relationships. Romance isn’t a relationship role. It isn’t relationship behaviour. It’s something that goes beyond any one thing you think, or do, or even feel. Romance comes from the heart, not the head. You can’t learn it, but you can discover it. Romance is a quality of engagement, and as twisted as people make it, no wonder it isn’t well respected.

In the romantically immature stage we “fall in love with” the one we can identify with. Which is fine when our self awareness is shallow, but it can never last. We eventually need the truly “other”. That person we don’t really understand at all, but who we can open our heart to.

“Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable.” Bruce Lee (American Actor and martial arts expert. Born in San Francisco, California, USA 1940-1973)

“To love one’s self is the beginning of a life-long romance” Oscar Wilde (Irish Poet, Novelist, Dramatist and Critic, 1854-1900)

Romance Adventure

Romance isn’t a nebulous sensation you feel sometimes. Romance is a status of a relationship, and actually any relationship can be at a point of “romance.” I was even looking at a picture that had the main character from House and… Seek More

Genuine Romance

I myself find people fascinating. In a sense that makes me a romantic, as I become very invested in the experience of human lives and the trials of their relationships and existence. One of the things my wife notices about… Seek More

Spiritual Romance

What is it about the quality of something like a beautiful sky that moves us to feel romance? Psychologically, it’s been called “biophilia”. We instinctively have positive responses to witnessing things that are life supportive. I feel romance for things… Seek More

Strong Engagement

Romance can apply to any relationship, even a temporary one such as a discussion. You have a romance when there is strong engagement. I was immersed in the romance of the Olympics. Sports is engagement hence romance? All sport is… Seek More

In Love

The subject is romance, and is romance all that it’s cracked up to be in your experiences, friends? Sometimes yes, sometimes no. No, and I’ve never considered myself romantic. Yes. It can be wonderful. An inconsistency suggests there is something… Seek More

Look Inside

Why does personal presence become lost to the identity in a relationship? Wouldn’t a good relationship help you to know more fully who you are? It can if it involves a person who already has some idea of who they… Seek More

Romantic Maturity

One reaches romantic maturity when they have accepted their “opposite” side, and instead of looking for their opposite, they look for the truly “other.” Someone who’s total self is genuinely other than they are. Who can actually contribute to their… Seek More