Consider this notion should reflect your truth. There is only heaven. When death comes to anyone, to some it comes as an angel of mercy. Release from a life well lived and properly ended. For others, death comes as the avatar of a life squandered. A horrific demon off to drag them away from the chance they blew.
One of the members of ‘One World, Many Paths’ seemed to use the group as a pulpit. He has very strong opinions. The funny thing is that he actually does know what he is talking about if you give it the test of time and let it play out. It’s just the way he comes across that is uncomfortable. He seems to be after the negative response. I accept he is on a path he believes in. It’s fine, but there is a certain air of superiority I don’t like. How does one deal with a person who brings up negative feelings?
So it seems like we have already sort of begun today’s topic, which is conflict. How to deal with feelings of conflict with another? Good question. It gets right to the heart of the matter actually. It isn’t conflict that is a problem, it’s the feelings you have when in it.
He must feel that he is not listened too. It is almost as if he wants to cause the negativity. I have no conflict with him. In fact, I have validated his observations in our events repeatedly. I do not enjoy it when he feels he must force his point, but I see his behaviour and statements for what they are. It is his energy/spirit.
How to establish a harmonious relationship? Regrettably that has eluded me, and he has unfriended me repeatedly. I have accepted this is his true desire, but I haven’t dealt with him as if “he” were the problem. Simply, he is not the problem. It’s an energy/probability dynamic.
This is a conversation about conflict and we all have it, and on more fronts than we are even aware of. For every intention you have, someone may have an intention that seems to run counter to your own, emphasis on “seems”. In fact, for every choice you make you had the option of the opposing choice, and someone chose it even though you didn’t, and for the same valid reasons that might have swayed you.
He doesn’t understand why we don’t just suddenly see it his way all the time. I see peoples intentions like weather. What good is it to yell at an undesirable weather condition just because you find it unpleasant?
That is another point to look at, that we are dealing with the polar opposites instead of the balancing pairs of related opposites. Indeed. Conflict isn’t an evil. It’s inherent to reality. It degenerates to something base only in human perception.
There are ways to affect the weather though. Oh, indeed there are ways, and we will sort of talk about that today. Ever feel like life is a car and you are in it but no one thought to give you the keys, and you can’t get out?
The stuck feeling, yes. It seems very mysterious that everything seems so far out of our control. How can that be possible?
We don’t see our way? Trying to use someone else’s? Life gives you a way forward each and every time you have a conflict. Every crisis really is an opportunity, but generally we are too intoxicated with our old stale emotions to “take the keys”.
So is every “seeming” a conflict? Yes, indeed. We don’t let ourselves respond fully to the moment the world presents us.
This is once again, a non issue for me now. I’m glad to say conflict no longer comes often nor stays long. This is good to hear. Liberation can be amazing and incredibly burdensome. It’s the perception of conflict that is the problem, as said earlier. We are in more conflicts than we even perceive, but the unperceived conflicts don’t bother us. You still have people/places/things that would seem to function counter to your intentions. You are perhaps just undisturbed by them. This is wonderful.
Your thoughts are welcome. Be well friends.