When you asked what thing we do despite social pressure, I was thinking, “Looking at/flirting with girls.” Yes. If you must start somewhere, start with the most readily available to experience. That isn’t shameful. It’s wise.

People forget that they can flirt with their partners. Why is that? The idea that they can have joy. That winds up leaving them feeling empty handed.

Maybe they feel bored. They feel bored because they aren’t doing joy. They aren’t living their relationship.

I love flirting, and my hubby and I do it often. Excellent.

It’s bad when it become routine. Whatever you found attractive at first is still there, or never was there. Don’t want to make people into objects that you use? I think this will sum up today’s topic of Joy perfectly. Want to respect people and the world? Objectify them. Stop leaving them as empty ideas in your head. Life and your world must be available to you for experience.

Make them something in your life? Yes. Embrace your partners physical presence. Openly accept their behaviour. Don’t rationalize anything.

What can you do to show them you accept? You don’t do that. You show people you accept them by accepting yourself, objectify yourself. Accept that hug, or reject it. Eat that cookie, or find something else to do.

Here is a video I was reminded of when we were discussing joy and sex. It’s a good example of both.

That’s an excellent example. I would like to know what you think of that. It’s an object lesson.

Aww, brilliant. That was really cute.

That is joy. They didn’t plan it out. They didn’t stop to think. They just did it and got into it. There is no debasement of character when you embrace objective life. You won’t stop feeling like you do or being who you are. You will be it more fully and do it with an enjoyment you may never have experienced before.

So do those silly things you are dying to do? Yes. Do the silly thing and keep it for yourself, or share it, however you feel.

Oh, I’m going to go buy a colouring book. I strongly recommend it. You may find you want to do more than the coloring book, or you might just have fun with the coloring book until you find something else to do. Either way is good.

I want to take a painting class one day. When you can, do. Don’t worry about it. In fact, I find it helpful to see everything you do as fake. You don’t have to keep it real, keep it fake. Pretend you are doing it. If that pretending is really convincing then cool, otherwise you will still have fun.

I wish you joy my friends. It’s all I ever wish anyone. It’s all that is necessary.

Your thoughts are welcome. Be well friends.

Travis Saunders
Dragon Intuitive
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