-
Conflict Is Perception
Most people see conflict as drama and feel it there moral duty to avoid it, but you can’t avoid conflict. You are very likely involved in more conflicts than you currently perceive. It’s only your perceptions that bother you. I’ve often had people comment on an interaction after the fact that they saw as a…
-
Understanding Conflict
Conflict is not an easy thing to understand. If one can recognize that it is a matter of opinion, and that it isn’t necessary to agree. Most of the ways you get “wronged” are in fact not about you or your well being at all. I love a good debate. I have learned it is ok…
-
Choice In Conflict
Let’s get a bit wild. Let’s say you have a haunting. How many of you follow this research? Ghost hunters anybody? I’m not a hunter, but I believe in them and I like shows about haunting though I sometimes question the accuracy. The accuracy is specious, but I’m just checking if we have a perceptual…
-
Third Option
Perhaps more explanation of the third “win-win” option? That I can do. You have your ego, and your publicly perceived self. For most of us these two things don’t match up. Whenever someone comes into conflict with you, they are dealing with your “public image” which is actually more connected to your natural/physical presence. So…
-
Dealing With Conflict
One of the members of ‘One World, Many Paths’ seemed to use the group as a pulpit. He has very strong opinions. The funny thing is that he actually does know what he is talking about if you give it the test of time and let it play out. It’s just the way he comes across that…
-
Reality Checking In Conflict
I’ve noticed how some things I’m fine with, and others will drive me nuts, and I’ve wondered what’s the difference between them? The things you are fine with though you don’t know why, are consistent with your brains “reality checking” mechanism. All of our minds engage in this process. It’s a necessary behaviour for survival.…
-
Magical Insight
The four states of matter themselves seem to exist in tension, seemingly destroying each other. But for water “destroying” fire (read “transform), there is no destruction. Destruction is not even possible. Now let’s apply this to impersonal conflict. Instinctively, we don’t make any choice for the purpose of destruction. The subconscious mind doesn’t even have…
-
Ways Of Acceptance
People get very hung up on “who they are”, and protest the unfairness of others not realizing who they are. For some people getting angry is actually quite functional, for others it isn’t at all. But I ask you, are we entitled to dictate an ego to others and insist they accept it? (Ego =…
-
Linear Thinking
Today, we are talking about the third option. First, I will start by asking, what does that phrase “the third option” mean to you? Thinking outside the box? An alternative outside the conventional. There are some basic facts of human nature we all contend with. First perhaps being that we all engage primarily in linear…
-
Rainbow of Awareness
Our minds organize our memories into sectors, sort of a stain-glass mosaic of everything we have ever thought, felt, or perceived. Sectors of importance? Importance is something people have generally very little conscious control of. There is a process that weights thought as well as sensory memory traces. That subtle anxiety I spoke of earlier?…
-
Truth is in the Synthesis
To take a page from hermetic philosophy, the reality we seek is between the opposites. You have the idea or hypothesis about life, and most often we just stick with this. Then we have the antithesis or fear that our ideas are wrong. Between the opposites, is that similar to the Buddhists’ “Middle Path”? Similar…
-
Psychic Physiotherapy
Neuroscientists are very proud of an idea they have discovered in the domain of regular thinking. You have no free will. In normal thinking, you have what they call free won’t. You can seem to exercise choice by omitting some element of your thought pattern. But the thought pattern keeps its original shape no matter…
-
Third Point Consciousness in Interpersonal Activity
Now for how third point thinking affects interpersonal activity… You normally perceive other people as a web of behaviours, the chains of cause and effect they produce, even perhaps recognizing cycles, but still in a pretty linear way like an emotional stick figure. You have feelings about their behaviours of course. If they behave in one…
-
Perception of Events from the Third Point
Shall we do examples of life events and how they are perceived from the third point? I will need a bit of help here, if someone will pick a scenario. A life decision like should I work or retire. Ok. So yes, you are sitting at home thinking about that. Seen from the normal way,…
Category: Conflict
All creative activity has its opposite, but its opposite isn’t destructive behaviour. It’s counter creative behaviour. At the end of your time what will it matter that you were ever opposed if you fully expressed everything that was yours to express? It will matter of course, but not in a “visible” way. When your spirit jumps up against another’s like that, there is an opportunity for a cross pollination of energies. If someone destroys something you value, you can see what their spirit is trying to say in the aftermath when the dust settles. Because if you aren’t still fighting them, they will create the circumstance they were seeking. You might even discover you like what they created, and just needed to sidestep the bull.
When you are acting from the third point of consciousness, the nature of your behaviour will be such that even if other people don’t consciously understand it, it will impress them instinctively as honest and innocent. For a little while, they feel just a bit more whole and aware.
“Whenever you’re in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.” William James (American Philosopher and Psychologist, leader of the philosophical movement of Pragmatism, 1842-1910)
“Conflict is the beginning of consciousness.” M. Esther Harding