There are no coincidences. The line of cause and affect may be very abstract, but it is there.
I am not you, because my event border is distinctive from your own. I can happen at the same time you do. But is my presence a single event?
You being conceived is your brain being “switched on”? My father being conceived was my being conceived, and in that case, my brain was switched on before fertilization. If you accept the scientific view of consciousness as an electrochemical process, all cells generate the same physical signals as brain cells. We just declare that the complex mesh of signals in our brain is consciousness, somehow.
Is there one moment when the brain does become functional or is it gradual? The brain doesn’t at first grow. Self mastery is not about the brain. Your brain occurs as a pattern meshed in the body, and the body occurs as a pattern meshed in the ecosystem. Where is the literal difference?
So no event boundary? Actually there is, but it’s not a true boundary. In the literal meaning of the word, it’s an event horizon. A black holes event horizon actually has no spatial coordinates and neither does yours. This is why you can appear to occur over time. Why you seem able to persist as an object, and why you could occur before the event of your physical conception. When you were a child, were you without mind? Are children without understanding?
I was not without imagination. They understand more than adults do, I think. They just may not be able to put it into words. They are perhaps with little knowledge or experience, but they survive on understanding.
My children were distinct from the moment of birth. All children are. Children do not come from parents. They come through parents, and we come from the same place.
I’ve had a child look at me when I’ve been really sad and she seemed to say in her eyes that I understand. As if she said, it’s ok to feel sad. Children learn much that they probably really shouldn’t, but we decide they should.
Your thoughts are welcome. Be well friends.