“It’s a luxury to be understood.” Ralph Waldo Emerson. A mission to understand. Know thyself.
What are the worst projections people do? Fear is very virulent, and it isn’t instinctive. We warp our own natures for the sake of fear. Fear of rejection, it creates rejection. Fear of failure, it creates failure. Fear is an obsessive (I dare say psychotic) focus on bad. You don’t avoid bad things by thinking on them excessively, you just trade one set of bad things for another. You have to see good to receive good, and when you receive good you realize that you aren’t actually receiving anything. It was already there. This brings peace I find.
Best things we project? Love. Outward or inward? Well, this is why I’m talking about projection. You can’t avoid projection. Projection is the natural behaviour of the human mind, so outward is in and inward is out. It just spreads. But love for example. How many people are repelled when someone says “I really loved that movie” or “I really love pizza”? There is generally no reason to be repelled, but if they say “I hate” this or that thing, even if you are inclined to be tolerant are you really? Hate is fear and fear is the worse thing. If we spoke in person or privately, I won’t likely tell you much about what I hate because I don’t fear much. I don’t take everything on my shoulders. Someone else’s behaviour, I don’t worry about it. Someone else’s desires, I don’t worry about it
Is hope a bad thing to project on someone? No and yes. Hope is paradoxical. If you define hope narrowly, as hope for one event, hope for one goal to be achieved, then yes, it is bad. It can motivate frustration and aggression, or in the least energetic case, disillusionment. But hope can be a recognition and observation of our connections. Thus if you see that on a gut level, “this can be better and they have a part”, this hope is good.
Any cure for frustration projection? There is a cure for projected frustration. Realize your true desire. You get frustrated when your insight is off. You will hear frustrated people say “I don’t know” a lot. Often times they do know. In general, people know all they need to, but they engage in self deception for one reason or another. Until that self deception can be ended, the frustration will continue. It is a very wide spread state of mind.
Frustration comes from “Why don’t they act like…” “Why don’t they see…” It is simple, really. “Me” is the missing piece and it’s missing to you too. They have their own projections and you do yours, and mostly people don’t see each other very well at all. They say “be yourself”. They don’t say what that is. We want to be seen for ourselves, but we don’t see ourselves. So how would we know if we were being seen for who we are?
Have you been told you project badly? Project badly is a funny idea. Everyone projects so their criticism is pointless. That you mean the wrong things? Also is questionable.
You don’t know? I don’t know is a good stance. It is very honest. If you know what you don’t know then you can actually know things. If you claim to know everything, then in fact, you aren’t paying attention to anything. We instinctively pay attention because we don’t know. We don’t know what is in the room so we look around. We don’t know what people are thinking so we ask. It’s the not knowing that gives us knowledge. “Knowing” as people think of it is a state of stupor and people fall into it habitually.
Your thoughts are welcome. Be well friends.