Perhaps all the moralism, and all the self sanctified enlightenment is in its way the biggest fuel for the evils they themselves deride?
What would happen if you “imagined” you were happy? If you didn’t try to make yourself happy with your thinking? You just imagined you were happy? Do happy people say “I can’t deal with this?” Change what you imagine and can you keep behaving as you did? If you imagine you can quit smoking, really vividly imagine it, convince yourself that you can in your imagination more than you convince yourself you are addicted, what would happen?
I would quit! So I have to try that real hard. Actually, you don’t have to try it hard. Trying hard induces problem solving and problem solving induces stress. You would need to allow your mental down time to be taken up with imagining quitting.
It is hard to stay with this imagination state though? Well, only if you think it’s problem solving, but even Einstein said you can’t solve a problem in the same state of mind that you became aware of it in. Even in his case, he didn’t bring his work about by hard work. He did it in his boredom working at the patent clerk job. In fact, what has anyone done by trying? Ever?
To be a good friend and partner? You didn’t try to be a good friend. You likely had a clear vision of what good friendship was and just did it.
I am trying to be there for my friends and family in hard times? You didn’t try even then. You have a clear vision of supporting your loved ones when they need you, and you just do it. Did you have to try anything? Right now try to type a message. Don’t do it, try to do it. What are you doing now?
Do you have to try to make your imagination work? Does anyone have to try to worry? Worry is imagination. Worry comes naturally to everyone from time to time, but what makes the difference is not imagination, not passively. What matters is how we guide it, and we guide it quite simply by our focus.
But some things don’t come naturally, like paying attention to a friend? Even so, if you’re trying to pay attention to your friend are you actually paying attention to your friend? Or if you succeed at what doesn’t seem to come naturally, isn’t it because there is something that motivates it? Something that does come naturally and will make you stick with paying attention? I suspect so. Whenever you successfully do anything, it’s from imagination not thinking. But thinking does break things down for you. Thinking gives you details. More colors to imagine in, more power in your imagining. This seem silly? Not true for anyone?
A resolution based in imagination instead of the thinking is much more fun. You are likely imagining what’s coming up for you in the new year anyway aren’t you? Imagine that good things will happen? That won’t prevent bad things from happening, but it will affect your whole year. There is a quote, “Worrying is using your imagination to create things you don’t want”. It’s like starting your day in a bad mood. We all have that “it’s going to be one of those days” imaginations.
A good resolution is to imagine well.
Your thoughts are welcome. Be well friends.